Wide_070204_dungy_hoisted I recently read the excellent book by Super Bowl champion coach of the Indianapolis Colts Tony Dungy entitled, Quiet Strength.  Among many, a section that really summarized some great leadership truths was where Dungy talked about what he learned from studying the book of Nehemiah in the Bible.  He and one of his spiritual mentors took a whole summer to focus just on that one book.  His summary of his leadership lessons from that study are simple and important.  I will include them in their entirity here:

"Tom pointed out that most of the failings of biblical leaders were spiritual rather than tactical.  I learned three key truths from Nehemiah.  First, Nehemiah’s opportunity came in God’s time, not his own.  Second, Nehemiah diligently prepared his mind and his heart so he would be ready when God’s time arrived.  Third, Nehemiah needed to be prepared to take on the problems, doubts, and adversity that would come his way both from the outside and from within."

In summary of Dungy’s summary 🙂

1. opportunity is in God’s timing

2. prepare so your’e ready when opportunity hits

3. learn to handle struggle   

I think Dungy’s summary here is excellent.  Who among us has not gotten frustrated at least once about the timing of things?  Who hasn’t gotten impatient wondering why increase and success seem slow to find us?  It is salve to a wound to realize it is all in God’s perfect timing! 

As to preparedness: I used to think that all I needed was an opportunity, but what I really needed was proper thinking and the maturity that could only come through proper preparation.  For this reason I am thankful to the many authors, speakers, and great examples that have gone before me that have become so much a part of my preparation (and I have really only just begun the journey of growing and learning and getting better, to which many of you are much relieved to hear, I am sure!).  As the saying goes, success occurs when opportunity and preparedness meet.  It is interesting, though, how few people prepare properly for opportunity.  They adopt a "wait and see" attitude, or an entitlement mentality.  In a fast food culture they want everything instantly and refuse to put in the long, often hard hours of preparation.  But those who prepare, who get their engines running before the gate drops, are those that prosper the most.

And the struggle?  Well, it’s the struggle that builds strength and proves depth of character.  We hate it while going through it but realize in retrospect that our struggles sometimes become our greatest allies.

So rely on God’s timing and allow that understanding to give you patience.  Meanwhile, prepare and prepare, knowing that your day will come.  And when it does, don’t expect a bed of roses, know that anything worthwhile will require effort and expense. Apply these three truths to your leadership arsenal and see if you don’t notice the results.

Do any of you have stories or experiences related to these three truths that could benefit other readers?  If so, we’d like to hear them!   

   

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14 responses to “Quiet Strength”

  1. DaveC Avatar
    DaveC

    Chris,
    I am really glad you have recognized Tony Dungy as a leader and example for all to follow. Quiet Strength is a book I haven’t read yet but is on a fairly short list of books that I intend to read. I have been disappointed when I here someone speak from stage or on a CD and say that there are no heroes in sports today to whom they look up as an example. Every time I hear that I think of Tony Dungy. If no one else in sports is a true example of Christian leadership, at least Coach Dungy is.
    Thank you for recognizing this.
    DaveC

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  2. Peggy S. Avatar
    Peggy S.

    Last year my husband and I became grandparents for the first time on Feb. 7. I went about calling everyone to let them know about our precious darling born to our daughter and son-in-law. That same day I found out that my step-dad of 34 years had a severe heart attack. He died two days later and we held the funeral four days after that. We were waiting for another brother to return form Afghanistan. The amazing point is that our family was able to bring others to see the faith we had. It was years of preparation. My sister and I chose readings and read them with dry eyes, praise God. My daughter who just had the baby played piano beautifully for her Grandpa at the entire service. Everyone with a strong faith connection was able to share stories and eulogize him. I am always amazed at how God molds us in time and then cures us with his fires so that we can be rock for others.

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  3. Peggy S. Avatar
    Peggy S.

    Last year my husband and I became grandparents for the first time on Feb. 7. I went about calling everyone to let them know about our precious darling born to our daughter and son-in-law. That same day I found out that my step-dad of 34 years had a severe heart attack. He died two days later and we held the funeral four days after that. We were waiting for another brother to return form Afghanistan. The amazing point is that our family was able to bring others to see the faith we had. It was years of preparation. My sister and I chose readings and read them with dry eyes, praise God. My daughter who just had the baby played piano beautifully for her Grandpa at the entire service. Everyone with a strong faith connection was able to share stories and eulogize him. I am always amazed at how God molds us in time and then cures us with his fires so that we can be rock for others.

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  4. Ian from Texas Avatar
    Ian from Texas

    Chris,
    I will have to admit that when I first read this article, the guy that lives in my head (You know, Mr. Negative)started sounding off. Maybe it is my melancholy nature to always be thinking of the worst that can happen. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. That has been a personal motto throughout my life.
    Something very strange happened this morning. Mr. Negative started spouting off. Saying things like:
    “Oh, man, what has happened now. Something has happened. Goliath is going to drag this out forever!!!” and:
    “Delay,Delay,Delay” and:
    “We are sorry ladies and gentlemen, but due to servere turbulance in the forcast, this great idea has been delayed.”
    (Is it just me? Does anyone else out there have a Mr. Negative that talks to them? I may need professional help 🙂
    Anyway, the strange part of this story, if that is even possible, is that when Mr. Negative started his routine this morning, another voice popped up.
    For the sake of other readers I cut a very long list of negative thoughts down to 3.
    Every time Mr. Negative piped up, another voice that sounded eerily like Chris Brady said,”Doesn’t matter.”
    Yes indeed, without any concious effort whatsoever,
    it just happened.
    “Doesn’t matter.”
    “What if we have to wait even longer?”
    “Doesn’t matter.”
    “Goliath is being a big meanie!”
    “Doesn’t matter.”
    “Servere turbulance ahead Captain!!”
    “Doesn’t matter.”
    You have to imagine that Mr. Negative sounds like gollum from “Lord of the Rings.”(I don’t know if that helps or not)
    (Doesn’t matter.)
    SEE! There it goes again!
    My point to this rambling is that I, along with other hardy souls on the Team made a decision at various points in our lives. We made a choice to improve. We started listening to some folks with “fruit on the tree” who were obviously getting results. We started listening to how the results were achieved.
    We heard about mistakes that have been made, so we don’t have to make them. We associated with GREAT people. We chose to spend our money and our time differently. We chose to embrace an amazing technology called “books”.
    Actually reading books? Who does that anymore?
    We do.
    Who spends time driving around listening to cd’s of some seminar we couldn’t go to, say in Winnipeg?(For those in Winnipeg, no offense, replace Winnipeg with Houston. You will get the drift.)Anyway…
    We do. Who would drive 15 hours, one way, to go to St.Louis and be with the Team. We will. Sharing rooms, cutting down costs, eating baloney sandwiches. Yep, we will.
    (Mr. Negative)”Why would you be willing to do all of these things? GOLLUM GOLLUM.”
    (New voice that sounds eerily like Chris Brady)
    “We are on a journey, or quest, or long exciting adventure that doesn’t end until we die and our body skids 10 feet. What kind of lame story would it be if nothing ever happened? If everything was good and easy, all the time, how would you know it was good and easy? We have mountains to climb, wolves to do battle with, demons to conquer, and adversities to overcome.”
    That sounds more interesting. Way more exciting. Count me in.
    Doesn’t matter when we start.
    Doesn’t matter how long it takes.
    Doesn’t matter how far we have to go.
    We are the Fellowship of the Team!
    (Mr. Negative) “You could get sued for that!”
    Chris Brady voice that over time will just be the normal voice of reason in my head)”Doesn’t matter.”
    (Mr. Negative)”I just re-read this entire post and you are nuts if you think Chris Brady, renowned author, is gonna post this.”
    (Me)Doesn’t matter.
    What matters is that I am going to wake my wife up, take my dogs to the groomer, listen to my new cd’s of the week on the way to eat a fantastic breakfast, pick the dogs up from the groomer, drive to Houston to hear Jimi and Lori Odom speak at the monthly seminar, buy my tickets for St Louis, goto the ticket holders meeting, listen to more cd’s on the way home, and try to read a chapter or 2 of the book of the month,or maybe even read the whole thing.
    I have very important things to do today. I am on a journey, a quest, a mission.
    I may not be going to the SuperBowl today. Or trekking off to Mt.Doom.
    That doesn’t mean that I can’t prepare for the journey, in fact I just realized something…
    the journey has already begun.
    Chris, thank you for a forum to express myself. Thank you guys from the Team that have been so strong under adversity, and full of grace and dignity in public.
    Lead On Sir
    We are right behind you.
    Ian from Texas

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  5. Kevin Avatar
    Kevin

    Thank you Ian from Texas! You are a leader and people will follow you. Your words are very inspiring. I look forward to reading your comments on this blog site and Orrin’s. Hope to meet you someday.

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  6. Patricia Avatar
    Patricia

    Wow! What a powerful post from an amazing leader – and what appropriate timing….I just finished watching/listening to (at my daughter’s suggestion) just about the most powerful talk I’ve ever heard on ‘struggle’ or ‘trouble’. Louis Giglio: http://www.northpoint.org/messages Scroll down to 9/16/07. AWESOME!

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  7. Jessica B. Avatar
    Jessica B.

    Chris,
    I, like many others, have had several struggles throughout my life that I will never forget that God blessed me with. Yes, I say God blessed me wiht these struggles because in the end I became a better person and closer to God. One example occurred going on three years ago. My husband and I got married in July of 2005. In June of 2005 we found out that my mother had colon-rectal cancer. She was between stages 3 and 4 which meant it was in the highest levels of progression. We found out that she would have to start chemo quickly. This concerned me not only for my mother’s health, but I wondered if she would even be able to attend our wedding. She had been the major planner and I didn’t know what I was going to do without her. Thankfully, God has blessed us with a wonderful church family and many friends helped us through the process. People right and left were trying to help with the preparations for the wedding and help my mother with anything that she needed. We were immensely blessed with help so much to the point that there were people we had to turn away because we had nothing left for them to do. My mom was well enough to attend our wedding and we once again had more than enough help so that she didn’t have to lift a finger that day. Praise God! She continued to receive treatments for several more months. Then at the predesignated time they decided to do surgery to remove the remaining cancer. After her surgery was complete the doctors revealed that the chemo had taken nearly all of the cancer and that she was in remission. She has had many struggles throughout this time with treatments and so on. My mother had never really been a strong dependent of the Lord. However, during this time she became one and let His light shine through her. She was a witness to all that she encountered for God was the reason for her strength and remission. Her struggle became God’s victory as now her life is changed spiritually as well as others that she encounters…especially her family.
    Praise God for the struggles He leads you through. While we may not understand the struggles we go through, God will show us the light in His time.
    God bless!
    -Jessica B.

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  8. Ian from Texas Avatar
    Ian from Texas

    Chris,
    This may be indulgent but I wanted to respond to Kevin’s kind words. I recently posted a comment to Orrin’s blog stating how cool it would be to meet some of the people who’s contributions to yours and Orrin’s blogs have really helped me.
    Tonight, I got to meet one!! Steve Visser was at the seminar in Houston. I introduced myself and he recognized my name and we got to spend some time talking and getting to know each other. He is a fantastic human being and I was humbled to get to meet him. I guess it goes to show that things happen in God’s time. As for Kevin, I really appreciate the encouragement, but it is only because of Orrin and Chris providing us the ability to express ourselves on this journey that it is even possible.
    If you are going to be in St.Louis in a couple of weeks, and I highly recommend it, look for me there. I will be in a dark suit, white shirt, and a red tie.
    DOH!!!
    That probably won’t work.
    Maybe the rhinestones on the back of suit coats or hats with names in neon are the way to go. Or maybe, like tonight, God will continue to put people together when the time is just right.
    Thank you Chris Brady.
    Ian from Texas

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  9. Chris Brady Avatar
    Chris Brady

    Ian from Texas:
    I have enjoyed your comments on this blog, and the great conversations you have had with other readers. It is great for me to hear about how you met Steve Visser tonight. I, for one, look forward to meeting the readers of this blog, too! All six of you!
    Ha ha. Just kidding.
    (all 10 of you).
    Thanks for reading and sharing! Remember, this is an environment for all of us to use to learn. See you in St. Louis or at an upcoming book signing somewhere in the world!
    Chris

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  10. Chris Brady Avatar
    Chris Brady

    Peggy S. and Jessica B:
    Thank you for sharing that story of pain and healing from your heart. I think that is what touched me the most about Tony Dungy’s book: the section where he dealt with the death of his oldest son. Just like you, Dungy came to understand the prescense of God to comfort him, knowing that God works all things to good for those that love Him. Through strength that the Dungys, and people like you and your loved ones have shown the world in times of grief, has shown the world what true faith is all about. God bless you and your families.
    Chris

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  11. Dave Nelson Avatar
    Dave Nelson

    Hi
    Eight years ago I got married, at age 49, for the first time. Suddenly we had two houses. Hers was better so we decided to rent mine/ours. It needed work. I could do some of it, but I had never done ceramic tile and dont like being on my knees that much. My house is near multifamily buildings.
    I’m a perfectionist. I’m a person who’d rather have clean than dirty.
    I had a 3 bedroom 2 bath pool home all to myself.
    Back to the tile job. I let myself be persuaded by a guy I knew little of to lay the tile in my house. I got to watch someone else screw up.Wow crooked tile 101.
    In my house that i’m fixing up to rent.
    Yes, I’m a believer. I got baptized in the atlantic ocean, full immersion. People can see a dove over me in the picture even though one wasn’t there physically. Many opportunities come along, you have to be aware, ready, and looking and praying for guidance. I bought the house in 1992 after getting one of those real estate courses.
    His name was Dave Deldotto. Now, it’s 2002, the markets going up, I’m in a good position.
    Yes the tile job was less than I expected. You get what you pay for and I did not want to pay for expensive then, I wish I had.
    The lesson part is that the guy wanted me to continue paying him after the job was done. We had agreed on a price but he wanted more. I asked if he would take a solid wood table and 4 solid wood captains chairs. He did but then he still wanted more. We were at war. His kid gave me dirty looks, his car was a piece of junk. why was I letting him control me.
    I talked to my mentor, we prayed about it and I paid the guy what he wanted and we parted on good terms.
    Was the price of the job worth the crap I put myself through? No way. Did I grow? Yes. This was an oportunity to fail. I failed at human relationships, human feelings, but I got growth out of it. No tenant ever says anything about the tile job. All that worry over nothing.
    The lessons- Pray before during and after.
    Struggles can be fun and you can control the circumstances to a degree, it just depends on how long you been waiting for things to change. Don’t wait any longer.
    Make deals and shake hands and keep promises.

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  12. Graham B. Knowles Avatar
    Graham B. Knowles

    It’s comforting to hear, that it’s in God’s timing and not ours that the opportunities come. Also that between then and the point at which we are at, we need to prepare. I don’t know about anyone else, but there are times I feel like what am I doing all this reading and CD listening for? I mean I don’t see anyone else, or really know of anyone else, other than those who are actively working to change themselves, doing this stuff. But then I rememeber that I don’t want to be like the masses. And if I continue to do what they do, I will continue to get what they get and what they have sucks.
    All that to say basically, Keep reading, keep listening, keep doing the right things. So that when your time comes and it will. Boom! You’ll be more than ready. All the best.

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  13. Torence Buss Avatar

    I have always trusted my God to get me through the greatest challenges in life. I have frequently found myself questioning the paths He has set me on, but never once have I indulged for very long the notion that He dose not exist. I am way to blessed in my life to believe otherwise and I let Him know this frequently for good measure. I have told Him many times that I want to be successful and He has brought me opportunities abound. The greatest of these blessings include the TEAM and all it stands for.
    High school was a huge struggle for me and as such I graduated without much hope of making it in any big career. After much heartache and failure in nearly a dosen jobs, I was lead to the doorstep of US Air Force recruiting.
    I found myself asking “Really, Lord?”
    His answer was simply, “Trust me!”
    So I shrugged my shoulders and joined up. Little did I know that that decision was going to be a pivotal pillar that would sustain me in many ways to this day. It wasn’t till after the experience that I realized its significance in my life. Yes it was a struggle, but my Lord had to prove to me that I was worthy of that victory. There were many times that I wanted to quit and go home, but God literally pulled me through saying “You WILL finish this race!” I had plenty of opportunities to bail, but my Lord refused to give up on me. It is for this reason that I have made Him captain of my vessel in this world and beyond.
    It was only recently that I realized that my God was preparing me for this moment in my life. The struggles, the failures, the heartache, the stress, the pressure, have all been preparing me for this great undertaking. It is true that I have the option to quit silently and without fanfare in this free market, but every time I even get wind of such a notion, I’m the one to squash it immediately this time. You see, this is a victory that has consumed me for my whole adult life. My Lord is preparing me for something great and I don’t want to miss it.

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  14. JeanetteP Avatar
    JeanetteP

    Chris, this was sooo the Lord! Our Pastor is currently doing a series on Nehamiah about his call to build for God. Also, just a little over 24 hrs ago we had the priviledge to sit down and talk with a fantastic young woman in which, as I described then, had a “quiet strength”. It’s meekness & is a beautiful quality to have. I needed to hear this today for it confirmed some things to me! Thanks so much for all that you and Terri do!
    Jeanette

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