Chew3She knocks on the door to my office and waits until I motion her in. Politely she asks with expectant eyes if I'd like to visit her "gum store." For once making the right choice (trying to remember if I've put her off earlier for the same request) I rise from my work and take her by the hand.

Her big brown eyes and freckled face are all delight as she tours me around the various flat surfaces of her bedroom, each delicately decorated with candies and gums of many colors and varieties. On one particular tray she has segregated Chiclet candies by color, arranging rows of them in a clever striped pattern. On another featuring one lone piece of gum on a tiny silk pillow, she has affixed a sign that reads, "Some of our gum is even royal!"

Everywhere there are signs, and prices, and even games to be played. Displays have been crafted with boundless creativity and flare. Her marketing skills as a 9 year-old are so far ahead of most adults that I consider hiring her on the spot to write ad copy for our company. "And here are some magazines I put together, Daddy," she says, offering me two well-researched handcrafted gems replete with explanations and diagrams showing how gum is manufactured. Throughout each magazine are clever ads and jingles, one-liners and specials. I marvel at the bud of talent inborn.

She is my only daughter, all sweetness and flair, with her own style and dramatic expression. She is precious to me beyond description. And perhaps to her, I am (in addition to her mother) the only audience that counts. Her happiness increases as she sees that her work has pleased me. Later, she again enters my office and hugs me. "I love you so much," she says.

The creative process is exhilerating. We conceive an idea, lay out our plans, and begin work under the most naive of expectations. The mere act of putting things together as we see them rushing into our mind is invigorating. In this delicate early phase, we are alone with the stream of conciousness and can hardly answer its call quickly enough.

Eventually, however, our peaceful cocoon of creativity must clash with the violent opinions of the real world. And usually we are not treated very kindly. Know-it-alls and pedants, critics and cynics swoop in to pluck the joy from our freshly birthed creations – feeding on our receding happiness like parasites without a food source of their own. 

And it hurts.

In fact, many who are stung by the unfeeling mud from the masses retreat within themselves and carefully hide the candle under a bushel, having learned the lesson not to bring it out in front of others ever again. It is tragedy in the true sense of the word. When one's creativity is snuffed by harshness, innocence is lost. Something dies. The world is a little less beautiful.

But a true artist doesn't perform for the world. A true artist creates because it is what she does; who she is. All she has to do is remember who her true audience is. It's not the world, or its teeming masses of unthinking envious critics, or even its well-meaning coldhearts. No. Her real audience is her father, her Father in heaven. He is the One who embedded those talents and creative capacities in her to begin with, and it is for His pleasure she should give life to their impulse. Just as I attempted to do in the sincere expression of my approval and affirmation for my daughter's "gum store," God does for His children; for those who are called according to His purpose. He is never harsh or unkind in his praise of our sincere use of talents for His glory. And He is never too busy. Having thus pleased Him, we should thereby be insulated against the opinions of mere mortals. After all, it wasn't for them.

So express those truths you hold deep inside. Create, write, paint, build, design, assemble, as for a king. His is the only opinion that counts. He is your lone audience; the audience of One.

Sincerely,

Chris Brady 

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46 responses to “An Audience of One”

  1. J.J. goidosik Avatar
  2. Moira Fitzgerald Avatar
    Moira Fitzgerald

    Wow!

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  3. Stuart Colvin Avatar
    Stuart Colvin

    Chris: Brilliant observation and message, thanks. Stuart.

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    Stuart Colvin

    Fantastic observation and connected message. Thanks Chris.

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  5. JeanetteP Avatar
    JeanetteP

    Beautiful!!!

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  6. Jean Intervallo Avatar
    Jean Intervallo

    As His child,I take a lot of his time ,I say Thank you Abba, many many times a day for without Him I am nothing..
    Thank you Chris…Peace be with you..

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  7. Terri Brady Avatar

    Love it! I love her! I love you! And I love our common audience of One. Thanks for inspiring fathers to be better dads…and sons to the Father!
    In love,
    Terri

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  8. Clint Fix Avatar

    Love this message! Thank you Chris!

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  9. Cathy - Team Rascal of Rascal Nation Avatar

    Chris,
    Thank you for this!
    I was in a creative contest recently. I was sure I would win. While many reviews were flattering, most ignored my efforts, and I did not win. (5th place)
    Your words reminded me I did my best, made something those who care most about me say is a winner and Abba Father’s love doesn’t depend on my performance in some silly contest, anyway . . .

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  10. Randy Harwood Avatar
    Randy Harwood

    Excellent and eloquent… I’m certain our Father is well pleased. Nice work, brother!

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  11. Tracey Avereyn (@CathedralBldr) Avatar

    Beautiful! Couldn’t help but consider that, just as you took care in describing her physical features and growing talents…how the Heavenly Father knows those same kind of details about each of us…even more.

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  12. Carla Snair Avatar
    Carla Snair

    Excellent post! To God be all glory!

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  13. Heidi Avatar
    Heidi

    What a great story. Thanks for the reminder, Chris!

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  14. Jaimie Badough Avatar

    Wow- what an awesome story, and even more so that you took the time to recognize and affirm your daughter’s creativity!

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  15. Kristy Avatar
    Kristy

    As always Chris, absolutely inspiring!

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  16. Emily Bird Avatar
    Emily Bird

    Well said Chris. Beautiful!

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  17. Jenny Salter Avatar
    Jenny Salter

    Thanks for sharing! Great story!! You have an amazing daughter!! I got the privilege of being around her this weekend…And she is just like her parents, in her marketing ability, business thinking, her writing & drawing ability! And most importantly she does know she has a special people she does these things for, but she knows the most important is the audience of one. You guys are great parents and great examples to us all!!

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  18. tGbtg Avatar
    tGbtg

    I am a volunteer, and our agency has many Chefs, but few Indians! I have to salute everyone, but my motivation is posted as a sign on the wall of the office: “Everything in this room is done for an Audience of One”. I let everyone know I answer to a higher power. His name is God, His Son is named Jesus.

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  19. Rob Robson Avatar
    Rob Robson

    Beautifully written Chris!

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  20. Olivia Avatar
    Olivia

    Thank you for the reminder to indulge in the excitement and creativity of my children in my “busy” day – AND to perform daily for an audience of One! I love that both you and Terri share your gift of writing with us — for the Glory of God! Thank you 🙂

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  21. Jeff Helm Avatar
    Jeff Helm

    You are so right, it is such a blessing to be a father, and even more of a blessing to realize that we can encourage them in so many of the little things, that turn out to be not little things at all. Thanks for continuing to work hard at living your LIFE by you convictions!
    Jeff Helm
    Today’s the Day!

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  22. Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx Avatar
    Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx

    Great reminder Chris to not miss the moments to connect with our kids and how our Heavenly Father also comes to us as we come to His presence. “If we feel far from God, guess who moved?”
    Our kids usually aren’t asking for or needing huge chunks of time, they just need our undivided attention for a bit.
    My youngest “child” is 18 and graduating from HS but I clearly remember those fond times when she would come to sit on my lap to read. She still comes to sit on my lap and snuggle sometimes and I love it.

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  23. Michele P. Avatar
    Michele P.

    “For once making the right choice (trying to remember if I’ve put her off earlier for the same request) I rise from my work and take her by the hand.” Wow….you had me here. It is so easy to get tied up in the urgent and not even see the most important right before our eyes. I am so grateful for a Heavenly Father that never has to make the right choice and for the reminder to look into the two beautiful blue eyes and delicate freckles that come to me with the request to come and see what I did. Thanks so much for your heart to share something so beautiful with all of us.

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  24. Jeanne Fritch Avatar
    Jeanne Fritch

    Perhaps your best blog entry to date. Thank you for this entry!

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  25. Ken Hendon Avatar
    Ken Hendon

    The fourth thing you can do with time is to bless others. Time then becomes sacred and He is honored.
    Thank you four honoring Him and us with these sacred thoughts and moments.

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  26. Leslie Gebhart Avatar
    Leslie Gebhart

    Well said Chris! The ultimate “it’s for who it’s for”
    🙂

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  27. Angie Ballah Avatar
    Angie Ballah

    Thank you for a beautiful reminder of how to parent the precious ones we are given to shepherd and to live for the One True Shepherd.

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  28. Angie Ballah Avatar
    Angie Ballah

    Thank you for a beautiful reminder how to shepherd the little ones we are given and to live for the One True Shepherd!

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  29. Jim & Mary Robson Avatar

    Great reminder to focus on the important!!–And encouraged to do our best for the One who counts!!Thx, Mary Robson

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  30. Chrissy Avatar
    Chrissy

    Wow so good!

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  31. Melissa McClure Avatar

    That is such a beautiful message. I remember my Dad believing in me that way when it comes to playing the piano. It is so good to hear it from another dad and hear the beautiful descriptions of the love a dad has for his daughter.

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  32. Corey McMullin Avatar
    Corey McMullin

    AMEN, Brother!!!

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  33. John Burns Avatar
    John Burns

    WOW.

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  34. Jeremy Arena Avatar
    Jeremy Arena

    Awesome post! It is a great reminder that God always has tme for us, so we should take time out of our lives from others. Thanks Chris!
    SPARTACUS!

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  35. Tony Peerbolt Avatar
    Tony Peerbolt

    I had tears in my eyes reading this! I have 5 daughters and each one, from 23 to 10 years of age, look to their Daddy (a cherished title that I do not deserve) for approval, acceptance, protection and true love. One of my main goals is to show them that although my love for them is immeasurable, my expression of that love is far from perfect. Their heavenly Daddy will always approve, accept, protect and most of all love them perfectly. That is where their true worth lies, not in the opinion of the world.
    Thank you Chris for that reminder!

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  36. Jim Deming Avatar
    Jim Deming

    Hello Chris, you are a very observant father and I greatly appreciate your talent in seeing that talent in others. We just got back from seeing in at the seminar and I have to say you gave me that spark I so desperately needed. On my way there I questioned everything but I almost fell out of my seat at some of you and Terry’s comments. I swore you had a microphone on me somewhere ase and my wife had just had that very same discussion at the break. It was truly uncanny. Thank you for the encouragement and someday hope to explain. God bless you and your family. The Deming’s

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  37. Nanette Walker Avatar
    Nanette Walker

    Wow Chris as always u stretch my mind. Thks. May God bless ur family and keep them safe!:). Nanette

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  38. Stephen Palmer Avatar

    Chris,
    What a brilliant, heartfelt, and touching piece. Such a beautiful story, and so beautifully told.
    You should definitely write a book around this concept.
    The world desperately needs to hear this message! Oh, how people need to be reminded of who they are!

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  39. Leah Stadel Avatar
    Leah Stadel

    This post is incredibly moving, Chris. A gem in your crown as father and leader.

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  40. Wendy Crockett Avatar
    Wendy Crockett

    Chris, as many posts before mine have stated, this is an awesome reminder and relevant story about the role we all have as parents, mentors, teachers, babysitters, etc. My 15 year old step-daughter struggles with math terribly, and although she had studied very deliberately all year and tutored with friends with “fruit on the tree” in this area, she still “failed” her final exam yesterday; however, received a “D” in the class and passed. She was very distraught, but as I and her father expressed to her that we knew she had done her best and that not everyone is wired to understand math; rather, she has other gifts and talents she excels in (and believe me, she does!), that she cannot worry about the past knowing she gave her all. In response she said, “It’s no use worrying about it anymore because I cannot change it.” I was impressed – but not surprised – with her mature response. She is a blessing beyond measure to us and I thank you for the reminder that those times I get so “busy” that I don’t pay attention to her requests is actually hurting her more than her “interruption” is “hurting” me.
    Thank you Father for your unconditional love and for stopping what you’re doing to pay attention to my requests. What an example you are for me in learning to become a better step-mother.
    And thank you Chris for being His student, thus reminding me what I am called to do.
    God Bless,
    Wendy

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  41. Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx Avatar
    Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx

    Terri, I always appreciate the way you edify Chris. He obviously isn’t perfect, only One is, but you edify, build him up and appreciate him on audios, on stage and here in print.
    You do have a great man because he loves the Lord, is committed to you and your children, is doing what he is purposed to do, is good at what he does and more importantly is not content to stay where he is in any of the arenas I just listed. He is a hungry learner so he can be more prepared to lead LIFE.

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  42. Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx Avatar
    Don Schultz, Team VIP Phalanx

    Thanks again Chris for the great thoughts.
    I just read the article again and a point that stood out to me this time was to not get so busy and caught up in the routine of life that I miss the things around me that add to the joy of my life.

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  43. Easton Kelsey Avatar
    Easton Kelsey

    My favorite scripture is Romans 8:28, a reminder that all things are for our good if we perform them for the audience of The One (being called to our purpose).
    Thanks Chris for the descriptive blog. Your daughter is amazing but then look at her progenitors!

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  44. Jerry Berndt Avatar
    Jerry Berndt

    Chris,
    For years I struggled to find my identity as a singer and musician. I never quite fit in with any popular genre or style. Two years ago my lovely bride Eunice and I were asked to take over a Bible class for developmentally disabled adults. The class involves a lot of singing, a short lesson, prayer time and more singing! Some people in the group can’t talk. Some can’t walk. Some can’t sit still. but ALL of them together make a joyful noise as we praise God! I am writing songs now that praise my Lord and God-my creativity has never been more alive! The audience of one, and His approval is worth more than the praise of thousands. God bless!

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  45. JeanetteP Avatar
    JeanetteP

    This one is a classic in my book Chris, to be read over and over! I’m so thankful to my Heavenly Father for revealing Himself to me as a young adult. His attention and affection toward us is as you describe w/ your daughter. I’m thankful for this beautiful reminder and eternally grateful that He has used the LIFE materials and leadership guidance to restore to me artistic gifts that once were buried, mainly because of those crude critics you speak of. I’ve learned much since then and am glad to report that this part of my life has been restored-only now the focus is in a different place, the right place:)
    Thank you Chris, Terri, and all the LIFE leaders for what you do to help others become what/who they are meant to be! God Bless you, keep you and draw you closer to Him!
    Sincerely,
    JeanetteP

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