My sons and I were leaving a used book store this morning (one of my favorite south Florida haunts) and one of them, arms loaded with a stack of books, said, "I wish I didn't have math to do today (he is home schooled) so I could read all these."  The cashier laughed, then I said, "I know how you feel!  I felt that way all the way through college!"Wintercampus

I have two engineering degrees from excellent universities, and I learned a lot during those years: systematic thinking and analysis, mathematics, mechanics, dynamics, circuitry, more mathematics, computer architecture, mathematics, physics, chemistry, mathematics, mathematics, mathematics, etc. etc.  By the time I graduated from those six grueling years I could reduce any equation that got within ten feet of me!  Complex matrices – no problem.  Quadratics, integrals, friction cones – child's play.  But I had never heard of Homer and didn't know how to pronounce Herodotus or Beowulf.  I had never heard of Machievelli, didn't know anything about the classics, learned only rudimentary history, and had been assigned to read a total of FOUR works of literature throughout the entire time!  I remember going to the campus book store and seeing all the cool history, literature, philosophy, sociology, and theology books and wishing I had time to read them.  But there was never time.  It took every ounce of my energy to keep up with my course load and stay on track for the Dean's List and scholarships in math and science.

Would I trade it?  Would I change it if I could go back and do it all over again? These are interesting questions.  I have no regrets about it.  I was supposed to learn what I learned and have those experiences.  Those years have become a part of who I am and what I know I can do.  Besides, I personally believe that there are not enough kids in North America focusing on math and science and keeping up with the global technology race.  As Thomas Freidman warned in The World is Flat, the West is losing its hold on the technical expertise of the world.  More and more American and Canadian kids are losing ground to those overseas who excel in technical educations.  Besides that, my education was hard for me, and it toughened me up and taught me to work.

However, and the point of this rambling, is I wonder how I might have gained a bit more of a "Classical Education" in the process.  How could I have been better exposed to the thoughts and ruminations of the top thinkers of history?  How could I have been given broader understanding of the human issues man has always faced?

I have been blessed with great friends and mentors who have shared their love of learning, reading, and study with me over the past fifteen years or so.  Through this process, what I might call a self-induced continuing education, I have filled in some of the blanks that I missed during the "math years."  This has been one of life's greatest pleasures for me!

What about you?  In the kaleidoscope of your life, whether you had formal education or not, what were the gaps in your learning and understanding?  What were you taught about the classics, history, mankind and the great questions of life?  Were you ever allowed or given time to THINK? Was your education vocaGallery_cmu_campus_3tional, or fundamental?

I hope more and more people realize that there just isn't time in a few short years of high school and/or college to learn everything necessary or desirable for life.  Continuing education must go on.  We alone are responsible for self-improvement, and it should be a life-long process.  Identify some areas where you feel you are not sufficiently informed, and get busy filling those holes! 

On this same theme, I would like to quote an excerpt from one of the world's foremost leadership authors, Warren Bennis.  His view is perhaps a little more critical than mine, but a great thought starter at any rate:

"Universities, unfortunately, are not always the best place to learn.  Too many of them are less places of higher learning than they are high-class vocational schools.  Too many produce narrow-minded specialists who may be wizards at making money, but who are unfinished as people.  These specialists have been taught how to do, but they have not learned how to be.  Instead of studying philosophy, history, and literature – which are the experiences of all humankind – they study specific technologies.  What problems can technology solve, unless the users of that technology have first grapples with the primary questions?"    

With that, I will leave you to ponder!

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8 responses to “We Have Been Taught How to Do, But Have We Learned How to Be?”

  1. CLS Avatar
    CLS

    Hi, Chris. What a great article. I decided when I was in Junior High that I was going to be an attorney. My entire life from that point on revolved around that decision. I earned a Bachelor’s degree in Political Science with a minor in Psychology (because that was the best choice for me in order to get in to the law school I wanted, not because it was what I found most interesting) and then went on to Law School. The entire time (all those many years) I never even THOUGHT about any other area of study…I studied so many things that I found totally UNinteresting.
    It wasn’t until spring of my first year of law school (when my husband and I decided to start a family) that I gave that decision some actual thought. It was then that I decided I didn’t want to be both an attorney and a mom. I dropped out of law school (much to the chagrin of my parents, I might add) and started a family. What I regret is all of the years wasted studying things that I (quite frankly) hated…years and years of boring topics that are of no use to me now. I don’t regret learning, and I really value what I learned in my brief time in law school, but I sure wish someone had taught me about life…budgets and smart spending, faith and religious decisions, and that it’s WAY BETTER to be a mom than a corporate cruncher any day. I wish I had learned relevant relational skills and communication skills. Those lessons were not among the teaching I received.
    I almost felt like a learning “infant” when we first joined the Team. I thought I knew so much and found that I knew so little (you don’t know what you don’t know, right?). My learning journey began then, not while I was in school.
    Thanks for your great articles on here. I hope Terri will post some, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Liz Avatar
    Liz

    Chris,
    Your thoughts struck home in regard to our four sons. I certainly am aware of the ‘gaps’ in my past but am even more aware of the gaps I see arising in our sons. We adopted a sibling group of four brothers from Kazakhstan two years ago and for the past two years, (prior to becoming a TEAM member) I was under the impression that I was to be their mother and primarily care for their physical and emotional needs. Whew, what a mistake I would have been making had I limited my involvment with them to just that! TEAM’s training system has opened my eyes to our responsiblity of filling in the glaring gaps that we currently see in this culture where our kids exist. This culture is fixated on ‘me-ism’ and instant gratification and passive learning. I’m inspired by TEAM to teach ‘others-ism’ and delayed gratification and active learning.
    I’m finishing up “Coaching Your Kids to be Leaders” by Pat Williams and was inspired by his comment that John Maxwell’s parents had him reading Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” already as a young child. That thought never dawned on me and I’m embarrassed by that. I had been lulled into this state of mind that just doing enough to get by is going to be good enough as long as the ‘enough’ isn’t bad. It took me 41 years to accumulate some valuable life lessons. There’s no sense in waiting to teach those to our kids. Operation Gap Fill–commence!
    Liz

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  3. Chris Brady Avatar
    Chris Brady

    CLS:
    Thank you for your great comments. What you are speaking of is living life with eyes wide open. We must take conscious control of our lives and take responsiblity for our education. It sounds like you are well on your way!
    God bless!
    Chris

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    Chris Brady

    Liz:
    What great commentary you give here! I love your terms “Me-ism” vs. “Others-ism”, those are perfect descriptors of what is going on! Also, Operation Gap-Fill has a good ring to it! It’s probably what I should have named this article! You are absolutely correct; we all need to do whatever we can, not just to nurture our children, but to attempt to get them thinking. Part of that is passing on to them our own experiences, but the other part of it is getting them exploring their own. Good luck with those kids, it sounds like you have a great heart, and they are blessed to have wound up in your care!
    God bless!
    Chris

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  5. DaveC Avatar
    DaveC

    Chris and Liz,
    Great thoughts by both of you. I hope that many parents read and heed these wise thoughts.
    DaveC

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  6. Cathy - Team Rascals Avatar
    Cathy – Team Rascals

    Chris,
    When I was in school, I read what interested me outside of what was assigned. If a book mentioned another piece of literature or author, I looked for it. I unknowingly started a self-directed education almost as soon as I learned to read, just by doing it!
    I will freely confess to weaknesses in the math and sciences (save animal behavior and some plants, most particularly those in my immediate region). Mathematic dyslexia (similar to traditional, just limited to numbers) took its toll on any interest in these subjects, and led to poor grades, which just compounded the disinterest. My background in reading gave me the ability to not have to study in literature and just buzz through the homework, and then concentrate my energies where I needed to pass so I could graduate, in math and sciences. It also gave me the ability as a youngster to converse with adults with intelligence and sophistication beyond my years, and certainly a vocabulary far beyond that of my peers.
    Reading became and remains a primary pasttime in our marriage and family life. I was delighted to find a man whose major possession, other than his camera, car and musical equipment was his boxes of books when we were dating! “When in doubt, build another bookshelf!” has always been the primary decorating mantra of our home. Our many bookshelves now are overflowing, and we continue to buy more books, even beyond the ones from the Team. (Our dream home has the luxury of a huge library . . .)
    As soon as our children were old enough, off to the library we went, and the acquisition of one’s own library card for a child was an occasion of much celebration. When my parents would ask what to give them for Christmas and birthdays, I would give them a list of age-appropriate classic books not yet in their libraries from which to choose. Even though both of our kids are special needs and neither had their mother’s inclinations (and gifts?) in writing, they did acceptably well in literature classes all through school, for the backgrounds we so carefully gave them. They both still enjoy reading, and can converse (when reminded) like educated adults, all for those books.

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  7. Mark haas Avatar

    Chris, I love the “learn how to be” education that the team with all of its CDs and books provides. Thanks for all you do.

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  8. Keith and Lynn Avatar
    Keith and Lynn

    Excellent points, as always Chris. We need to get messages like this out to the parents of this nation. We need to turn it all around.

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