Most everyone has heard the phrase, "Dream, Struggle, Victory." And it seems that there is a lot of literature out there addressing the first and the last of those three terms. But isn’t it interesting how little coverage is given to the struggle part?
Obviously, if we undertake some great endeavor we are going to struggle to accomplish it. What most people might not realize, however, is that the struggle is probably the most important part. It’s the struggle that makes us grow. It’s the struggle that reveals the character we have deep inside for continuing onward in the face of adversity. And it’s the struggle that makes for any good movie or story of achievement. 
I even read one book where the author calls it the "gift of struggle." Perhaps some would think it going to far to call struggle a gift, but I believe it is right. If you stop and think about it, the struggle is the only place in which we grow. It’s the struggle that makes us stronger. No body-builder would be able to build muscle mass without weigths or resistance. The pushing against or raising of the weight strains and pulls at the muscle fibers, which then need to repair themselves. Only in this repair process are the muscles made a little stronger than they were before. More lifting causes the cycle to start over again, until the muscles are bigger and stronger than ever before – all because of the "damage" of the struggle and the repair that was necessary afterward. Struggles in our lives work the same way. Just like lifting weights, they don’t necessarily feel good. And they can and often do cause pain. But how we handle those struggles, and what we do to overcome them and "repair" our committment to the dream, will build us stronger than we were before the struggle hit.
In Launching a Leadership Revolution, co-author Orrin Woodward and I even give special consideration to the topic of struggle in the section on mentorship. A good mentor knows that his proteges must struggle to become great, to grow, and to maximize, so he or she allows the struggle in the life of the protege while teaching the protege how to handle it, overcome it, and learn from it. Some might call this callous or cold, some might call it a lack of caring on the part of the mentor. After all, who would let someone struggle? Why wouldn’t one want to swoop in and eliminate the struggle for the protege and make his or her way easier? It’s the same as teaching our children to walk. If every time they started to bobble we grabbed them and kept them from falling, we would appear to be helping them. We would appear to be caring. But actually, we would be hurting our child by trying to help him or her too much. One of the greatest things my parents and mentors have done for me is to give me the encouragement to try, and then allowed me to make my own mistakes and learn from them. By creating my own messes, and knowing full well that I had the responsibility alone for my actions and cleaning them up, so to speak, I was allowed to struggle and grow through those struggles. When I look back over my life, the times of struggle were not fun. But they appear in broad relief, now, as the greatest moments of change and challenge. I would not be who I am today without those trials and struggles that made me stronger and better.
So embrace struggle. It’s not a bad word. It is not to be avoided. And when you see it in the life of those you love and mentor, of course, do what you can to keep them from actual harm. But in the course of events, allow them to take responsibility for their own lives, allow them to struggle against the resistance, and therefore build their mental muscles stronger. For out of the greatest adversity comes the greatest opportunity, and in those moments the greatest leaders are made.
Ships may be safe at harbor, but they weren’t made for the harbor, they were made for the dangerous high seas. And leaders may be safe on the couch, but they weren’t born for the couch, they were born for the tumultuous waters of engagement.
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