Void There are competing views of success in our world.  Achieving success in your life will depend largely on how you define success in the first place.  I must admit, my own personal definition of success has changed drastically over the years. 

One view of success in the world is measured by victory.  We’ll call this the Victory School of Thought.  If you are in sports or business or any type of competition, success is defined by winning.  Interestingly, though, some of the most successful in this category, such as legendary coach John Wooden of the UCLA basketball team, defined success as doing one’s personal best and giving full effort toward that end.  In his view, winning was a natural by-product of this philosophy.  It certainly worked for Wooden.  He remains the most successful coach on record in nearly any sport at any level.  However, Wooden, even though he was so successful, is still rare in his philosophy.  Most consider winning as the true measure of success.

Another view of success involves "capturing" things; whether it be titles, status, recognition, fame, or material possessions.  We’ll call this the Attainment School of Thought.  This is the "He who dies with the most toys wins" philosophy.  This view is a close cousin to the Victory School of Thought.

While these two schools certainly have their good points, and victory and some of the trappings of success are not wrong in and of themselves, they do both come with a fundamental flaw.  That flaw relates to the real way we human beings are wired and what truly gives us satisfaction.  The flaw in the thinking of both the Victory School of Thought and the Attainment School of Thought is that the things of this world can please us, that they are worthy as an end-goal in our lives.

The third and final School of Thought, I believe, is the Eternal School of Thought.  Here true success is found.  While it is okay to pursue victory in our lives in our professional endeavors (and who among us does not like to win once in a while?), and it is okay to enjoy the rewards of hard work and prosperity, real success is found in filling what one author called "The God-shaped void in our hearts."  You see, humans scratch around on the earth, busy about all kinds of things, pursuing all sorts of pleasures and objects designed to bring satisfaction, when the whole time what they are really searching for is a relationship with their Creator.  How do I know this?  It’s what the Bible is all about, and it is what has happened in my own life.

My last post was about Indianapolis Coach Tony Dungy.  After reading his book, Quiet Strength, I would recommend it to anyone.  And I will pull one more piece from that book to illustrate what I’m talking about here.  According to Dungy,

"God’s Word . . . presents a different definition of success – one centered on a relationship with Jesus Christ and a love for God that allows us to love and serve others.  God gives each one of us unique gifts, abilities, and passions.  How well we use those qualities to have an impact on the world around us determines how "successful" we really are."

I love Dungy’s definition of success.  It focuses on God’s grace and what He has done through Christ on the cross, and shows that our grateful response should be one of service to others and sacrifice for God’s glory.  That is true success.  If the other, worldly definitions also happen here and there, so be it.  But the world’s definitions of success on their own are hollow and lead to increased depravity as people strive for more and more, hoping to fill that "God shaped vacuum" that no amount of
"the world" will fill.  Real success comes from that relationship with God through His son Jesus Christ, and living out our days fulfilling, to the limits of our ability, the calling He places on our lives.
      

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12 responses to “Competing Views of Success”

  1. Matt Franks Avatar
    Matt Franks

    Chris,
    Great post! Success is such a tricky subject to explain because of the varying different views of what that definition means. You did such a great job communicating that subject, but then again that is what you do and who you are! You are not only a terrific leader, but God has blessed you with such a talent of communicating! As you say though โ€œyour gifts are not for your pleasure, they are for your purpose.โ€ Thanks for developing your gifts and abilities! I am definitely a grateful recipient of your teaching!
    To me success is somewhat of a perception more than a definition. Zig Ziglar echoed the famous line of โ€œyou can have everything you want in life IF you help enough others get what they want.โ€ I think too many people, including myself before I started growing and learning, confuse success with the rewards of success. That confusion, in my mind, prohibits an individual from growing to his or hers maximum potential. Because it is impossible to grow beyond the point of when you say โ€œI have arrived.โ€ That is why when I hear people talk about โ€œtheir journey to successโ€ instead of their โ€œsuccess journeyโ€ I can immediately tell they feel their definition of success is around what most would call โ€œEarthly Successโ€ instead of โ€œSpiritual Significance.โ€ Success is a daily thing; it is certainly not a destination thing! Doing the right things daily compounds over time.
    So as human beings that are free to choose, we need to decide โ€œDo I want earthly successโ€ or โ€œDo I want spiritual significance? One choice allows you to only have one of the rewards, but the other choice, if done correctly, allows you to have both. You might be thinking โ€œspiritual significanceโ€ what in the world is that? Let me explain:
    Earthly Success:
    What are the things most people shove for in life that define success?
    1.Wealth
    2.Achievement / Recognition
    3.Power / Status
    Is there anything wrong with those? Noโ€ฆโ€ฆ.the only thing that is wrong with those is if you identify who you are by them. Because then you are in the trap of no matter how much success you have you need more and thatโ€™s when we start to be self serving.
    Spiritual Significance:
    People that go after spiritual significance come from a different mold. Here are their top
    3 priorities:
    1.Generosity
    2.Service
    3.LovingRelationships
    A major problem is we start focusing on who we are based on earthly success and you will never get spiritual significance. If you focus on spiritual significance you will get earthly success automatically.
    I found a perfect story to illustrate my point about Earthly Success and Spiritual Significance about an event that happened at a Special Olympics competition that I am sure some of you have heard as well:
    โ€œA few years ago, at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash.
    At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.
    All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry.
    The other eight heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went back. Every one of them.
    One girl with Down’s Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said: โ€œThis will make it better.” Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line.
    Everyone in the stadium stood, and the cheering went on for several minutes.
    People who were there are still telling the story. Why? Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.โ€
    Do you see my point! The finish line in spiritual significance is a different race. The race is around the process of life, not necessarily the results. If the process is right, the results will be there.
    Success is when I add value to myself, but significance comes when I can add value to others!
    For me, in order to try and stay on the “Spiritual Significance” side of this I will always be growth oriented instead of goal oriented. To me too many people that are goal oriented stop once they hit a particular goal because that was there goal. Growth oriented people are always the one that grow beyond any goal because their mission is to continue their growth. In the end they allow their growth do their promotiong. If I continue growing than whatever opportunity comes my way, I will be prepared for it! Does this mean I have goals? Yes, but my goals are to always grow and to never allow my applause or recognition mean more than my contributions or performance!
    Thanks Chris!
    Best,
    Matt

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  2. Lauren Avatar
    Lauren

    What a great post. It is wonderful to hear truth.

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  3. Ian from Texas Avatar

    Howdy Chris,
    I read this post yesterday.
    I read it agian last night.
    I have read it three times today. I have really thought deeply about what you are saying.
    I commented on Orrin’s blog yesterday that I planned to talk to my wife at lunch after church. We have been married almost 10 years, and I have never discussed religion or asked her if she had been baptized. I felt really terrible about that. I take personal reponsibility for that. We go to lunch and I was thinking about how to bring it up, and as I looked at my wife and opened my mouth to speak, she said,”I have been thinking about joining the church and getting baptized.” After recovering my senses I realized that she just made this topic much easier to talk about. We decided to talk with some experienced members of the church to get educated about the decisions we are making. I think I learned that from the Team. We have several options of people to talk to, and when my wife gets home from work, we are going to decide who to meet with.
    The reason I am repeating all of this here is because I think it is important. When I got exposed to the old business opportunity, I allowed myself to dream about things for the first time in many years. The education I have received from the Team has led me and my wife to the place we are now. “Have fun, make money, make a difference.” We have had more fun since joining the Team than I can tell you.
    I think God has been preparing us for the rest of the motto. I have been learning to be thankful for what I do have. I have been deeply examining my priorities, and I don’t like what I found. I have been hammering away at debt. Debt has been a horrible drain on my family, and has forced me to work too much. That has also affected my family.
    The “make a difference” part of Team’s motto is what I think your article is about. I am making a decision to focus on this part. I will use what skills and resources that are available to me to do so. I will continue in faith to improve in all areas of my life, and when I am ready, and it is in the Plan, the money part will take care of itself.
    I will take personal reponsibility to improve my faith, my family, my finaces, my health, and the businesses I am involved in. I have a Great Big God that has Big Plans. I choose to listen, and do the next right thing.
    Peace
    Ian from Texas

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  4. Lydia Seibert Avatar
    Lydia Seibert

    Chris,
    I loved your comments from Dungy’s book and the follow-up today. Unfortunately, I think many of us have put ourselves out there as seeking success according to one of the first two definitions. What this means for the future is that we have to prove that we are truly out for success as God defines it. In some ways we may have lost our credibility because we have not lived all of our Christian values fully. For example, we have sought financial freedom because we are in debt. When we say we want success from God’s perspective, one may wonder how we got where we are in the first place. I have a lot of catching up to do to prove that my values match my actions, and that I am seeking the kingdom of God before the trappings of the world. I can only commit that, as God blesses, the overflow would be used to enlarge His kingdom. Thank you for your family’s and Orrin’s family’s example of charity, benevolence and proper perspective on wealth. Pastor Dickie’s book is also a wonderful resource for understanding wealth from a biblical perspective

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  5. DaveC Avatar
    DaveC

    Chris,
    I think that a saying of Orrin’s really gets to the core of what true success is: “Win/win or no deal!” I think that the attitude behind this saying if firmly rooted in so many Scriptures that I will not even mention any, and that is the attitude of putting other people’s welfare ahead our own. Someone may ask how that is a win/win situation? I think the quote from Zig Ziglar, “You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want,” answers that question. Real success and significance comes, I think, when you do for others not thinking of rewards for yourself but because it is the right thing to do and because your Creator desires it.
    DaveC

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  6. Jordan Newton Avatar
    Jordan Newton

    EVERYONE WHO IS INVOLVED WITH TEAM IS A SUCCESS!
    This is my feelgood morning comment. I cant wait to see everyone in St. Louis!

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  7. Natalie Whiting Avatar

    I really enjoy your blog; You and Terri were absolutely amazing in ARIZONA!!
    I read something that my great (late) Leader, (President) of my church taught;
    “You are moving into a competitive world. You are going to need all the wits that you have, all the brain capacity that you can possibly marshal, and all the skills you can develope if you are going to be successful.
    The major work of the world is not done by geniuses. It is done by ordinary people, with balance in their lives, who have LEARNED to work in an extraordinary manner.” ~ Gordon B. Hinckley
    I know he just passed away, but he lead our church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, the longest and he had accomplished so many things that affected our society. He was an amazing leader that left a Great Legacy.
    Thank you far sharing~ Natalie

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  8. Phyllis Hoff Avatar
    Phyllis Hoff

    Chris:
    Thank you for this post.
    If you ask 20 – 30 different people what their definition of success is, I’ll bet you will get several versions, from all the many things you mention here. So many people truly believe they are successful because of material things, status, recognition, position, etc. But as you so eloquently have communicated here, they would have none of those things, without Jesus Christ. I am so glad that you and Terry, Orin and Laurie, and all the leaders of the team have that have that belief within them. You are all such a wonderful example.
    Thank you, and looking forward to seeing you and Terry in St. Louis.
    Phyllis

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  9. Beth Avatar
    Beth

    Hello, Chris! I wanted to commend you on such a Truth-filled, great informational site. There are so many great lengthy articles on here! Thanks for taking the time to write/organize them.
    Also, being the melancholy that I am ;), I noticed an error on this post, in the first sentence of the third paragraph: “Another view of success involves “capturing” things; weather it be titles, status,”… I think it should be “whether” instead of “weather” like the snow and ice we’ve been having. ๐Ÿ™‚ No big deal at all.
    Thank you so much for being dedicated and such a strong leader. So many people are being touched and lives changed because you are allowing God to work fully through and in you… thank-you. We appreciate you guys!! God bless, Beth

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  10. Phyllis Hoff Avatar
    Phyllis Hoff

    Chris:
    I received this today, and thought you would like it. Not sure where you want to post it, but thought appropriate here. How fitting to get this when I returned home from church.
    GLASS OF MILK
    One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.
    He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.
    Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk.
    He drank it so slowly, and then asked, ‘How much do I owe you?’
    ‘You don’t owe me anything,’ she replied. ‘Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness.
    He said … ‘Then I thank you from the bottom of my heart
    As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit…
    Many year’s later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.
    Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.
    Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.
    Dressed in his doctor’s gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once.
    He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to her case.
    After a long struggle, the battle was won.
    Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words … ‘Paid in full with one glass of milk’
    (Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.
    Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: ‘Thank You God, that Your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands.
    There’s a saying which goes something like this:
    Bread cast on the waters comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time.
    If you never see the deed again at least you will have made the world a better place
    And, after all, isn’t that what life is all about?!
    Isn’t this wonderful?
    Phyllis

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  11. John hatchell Avatar
    John hatchell

    As Lana just said in her last eat Llr it’s all about the elusive pursuit!!!!

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  12. JeanetteP Avatar
    JeanetteP

    Very Refreshing Chris! Thank you for all that you do!
    God Bless,
    JP

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