One of my favorite authors is the late Patrick O’Brian.  In an insightful description of one of his characters, he says that the person in question had made it to middle-age somehow without life "sanding the cheeriness" off of him.  I loved that depiction.  As with all art, it’s beauty comes from its alignment with reality.

You will find ample opportunity in your life to lose your cheeriness.  Life is hard.  There will be bad breaks and unfairness.  Things will happen.  Nobody promises smooth byways and easy streets, and if they do, run.  But life is also wonderful.  It is bright and interesting and full of the wonder of God’s reflected glory.  There is knowledge to gain, vast territories to explore, and ourselves to understand.  There are extraordinary people of strength and heroic spirit.  And there is the precious gift of time.

Romance, to me, is living life in full appreciation and awareness of the wonder of God’s world.  Romance means becoming, as Mark Twain said, "a prodigious noticer."  Romance is finding pleasure in the small things; like the rippling sound of water against dock pilings, warm sun on skin, and the whisper of a toddler in your ear.  Romance is notcing the sublime in big things; the danger and beauty of an ocean, the power and thrill of an airplane, the magesty and intimidation of a mountain.  Romance is finding the good in others; their thoughtful gestures, their warm expressions of care, their smiles, their humor, and their friendship.  Romance is shared experiences, memories, and inside jokes.  Romance is designing your own home, taking care in your photography, expressing yourself through music or writing, and finishing a piece of wood.  Romance can be the deposits of good into someone’s life, giving a well-deserved but rare compliment, and buying a thoughtful gift.  Romance is the greatful expression of our ability, talent, warmth, and effort, just because.  Romance is the steadiness of dependability, and the perseverance of the long-haul.  Romance is family tradition and proud heritage.  Romance is a choice.

Dissected or reduced to its component parts, romance disappears like a shy muse.  Courted and summoned, romance sparkles and lights softly upon its caller.  Clear thinking, pure motives, honest communications, and the service of others fuels the power of romance and appreciation in our lives.  Selfishness, pressure, short-term thinking, and materialism wilt its wings and ruin its ability to please. 

What I am talking about is the passionate expression of ourselves into our whole lives through the things we do, the people we touch, and the principles and the God for which we live.  God has given us one life to live.  It is given to each man once to die, and then the judgment.  The world doesn’t need any more dour Christians, but it doesn’t need silly ignorance of our true condition, either.  The world needs true joy that expresses itself in a spark in our eyes, suggesting that we have discovered the truth about life, ourselves, our Creator, and our purpose.  It is then that they may call us romantics.  May we take it as a compliment!

What personifies this concept in your life?  What small things, or large, bring it into focus for you?  At what moments do you feel the most "alive" and in touch with the cheeriness of your life?  What gifts do you see around you in your life that remind you of your divine spark?   

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9 responses to “Romance and Persistent Cheeriness”

  1. Phyllis Hoff Avatar
    Phyllis Hoff

    Chris:
    You write so beautifully.
    I love this as I am so thankful for all the blessings God has given me, and believe me, there are many.
    I have learned to appreciate every day, as we never know when our last day here on earth will be.
    I have experienced so many of the definitions of romance that you have given here. Thank you.
    I also want to say I am sooooo
    excited that you will be doing our Tuesday open next week.
    That is a blessing in itself.
    Looking so forward to that.
    God Bless and see you on Tuesday.
    Phyllis

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  2. Tina A. Abernathy Avatar
    Tina A. Abernathy

    Wow Chris what a thought provoking article. When I ponder this question of what brings romanceor purpose into my life I immediately think of the book “Battle Cry for a Nation” by Ron Luce. This book was such an eye opener of the pure culture war that we are in RIGHT now with the lies of satan being literally PUT into our children and the next generation of leaders. I’ve known for a while that my heart was being pulled to somehow be a blessing to women and youth with the little bit of knowledge I have been awakend to but this book put it all into perspective. I think you said it best on one of the latest cd. It’s the greatest of all to do nothing because you can only do a little. Just do what you can.
    I feel alive and “cheeriest” when I am giving and serving others.
    Thanks for the thoughts!!!
    TA

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  3. Estee Lopez Avatar
    Estee Lopez

    wow, what an amazing article, I hope we all remember to listen to the whisper of children, after all it is from them that we can re-learn the true appreciation of the smaller things in life

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  4. Jared Avatar
    Jared

    Chris, I really enjoy reading your writing and listening to you speak. You are a gifted teacher and have had a tremendous influence in my life. I just recently listened you your cd on Sir Sydney Smith. It was awesome. I love history as well…it’s kind of the reason I’m in college so I should. I am particularly fascinated with the Napoleonic era. What books are you reading in your research of the time period?

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  5. Lisa Costa Avatar

    I really love this post! I have been reading your blog for months without ever making a comment, but today I am drawn to tell you how wonderful you are! Your perspective and eloquence and humor/spark/delight/etc are always so welcome!

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  6. Chris Brady Avatar
    Chris Brady

    Jared:
    Two of my favorite books from the Napoleonic era are:
    1. “The War for All the Oceans” by Adkins
    2. “Napoleon Bonaparte” by Alan Schom
    enjoy!

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  7. Lydia Seibert Avatar
    Lydia Seibert

    Chris,
    It’s been a while since I read your blog, but I was so blessed by this article. Your observations on what constitutes romance are so insightful. Two weeks ago, I kissed my dying father on the forehead and told him I loved him. He could not form the words to tell me the same, but I could see it in his eyes. It may not sound romantic, but these are the moments when we really live, when we communicate on a deep level with another human being, whether or not a word is ever spoken. I will miss him so much, but his passing, and all the kind words said to us at his funeral remind me that it isn’t how we die, but whether we really live. Romance, in a nutshell, is really living; it’s living the abundant life we were made for, and not missing a thing. Death reminds us not to miss a thing!

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  8. Lynda Varada Avatar
    Lynda Varada

    Love this! Made my heart sing. thank you!

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  9. Yvonne Blegen Avatar
    Yvonne Blegen

    The rays of sunlight filtering through the woods on a early summer morning. The sound of children playing outside. Birdsong as one sits in prayer.
    “Romance disappears like a shy muse”
    What an inspiration! Thank you for this and all of your stories.

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