In the smash-hit movie Titanic a few years ago, moviemakers combined fiction with history. As usual, the history wasn't exactly accurrate. Tellingly, though, was the way in which the actual history was tweaked. 

 

Most viewers of the film will remember the scene when the first class passengers rushed aboard the lifeboats. Only through the efforts of tough men with clubs was it even possible to get the women and children aboard the boats first. Terrible. Unthinkable. Unfair. 

 

Also: untrue.

 

We like it when our political misconceptions are reinforced. Popular media wouldn't be so popular if it didn't pander to our high opinion of ourselves and our society by feeding us what we want. That particular scene in the movie gratified viewers by showing them how unfair things were in the past compared to today's enlightened and egalitarian times. It also played right along with loathing 'the rich,' something common in political discourse today. 

 

What actually happened was that the men aboard nearly unanimously adhered to the chivalric notion of 'women and children first,' and they did so in an orderly, heroic fashion. According to author Fareed Zakaria: 

 

"In first class, every child was saved, as were all but 5 (of 144) women, 3 of whom chose to die with their husbands. By contrast, 70 percent of the men in first class perished. In second class, which was also inhabited by rich professional types, 80 percent of the women were saved but 90 percent of the men drowned. The men on the first-class list of the Titanic virtually made up the Forbes 400 of the time. John Jacob Astor, reputedly the richest man in America at the time, is said to have fought his way to a boat, put his wife in it, and then, refusing to take a seat, stepped back and waved her goodbye. Benjamin Guggenheim similarly declined a seat, yielding his place to a woman, asking only that she convey a message home: 'Tell my wife . . . I played the game out straight and to the end. No woman shall be left aboard this ship because Ben Guggenheim was a coward.' In other words, some of the most powerful men in the world adhered to an unwritten code of honor – even though it meant certain death. The movie makers altered the story for good reason: no one would believe it today."
 
Sad, really, that 'no one would believe it today.' So go ahead Hollywood, change history to suit the assumptions of your audience. Reinforce their ignorance and biases for the sake of entertainment. 

 

We live in cynical times when it is hard for many to believe that there were ages before ours that had honor, codes of conduct, and self-sacrificial service as standards of success every bit as important as material trappings and fame. We fall into the assumption that society progresses steadily upward simply because that is how technology appears to proceed. But just as nostalgia for bygone days is a bit naive and oversimplified, so too should we beware that when pushing forward with false assumptions bred of cynicism we leave something behind. 

 

What if we could mix the honor of yesterday with the advances of today? What if chivalry grew as fast as computing power? These are things leaders need to think about, because with everything new comes the threat of leaving something good behind.  
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9 responses to “Cynicism and the False Belief in Progress”

  1. Phyllis Hoff Avatar
    Phyllis Hoff

    Chris:
    You are on a roll. There has been one great post after another.
    If we could mix the honor of yesterday with the advances of today, oh my, how awesome would that be.
    Well, with the leaders we have on TEAM, and the charge to go to a million people and beyond, we could get there.
    Your creative mind never stops working.
    Keep them coming.
    Thanks so much.

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  2. Mario Vittone Avatar

    Poignant and thought provoking, though I’m not sure if I’ve met anyone who thinks service, codes of conduct, and honor are new and didn’t exist in our history as indicators of success. Personally, I think we’re coming out of an era where those things just seemed dead. They weren’t of course; we were just lacking a struggle to be honorable in.

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  3. Cathy Avatar
    Cathy

    Chris,
    Thank you for your wisdom and insight, yet again.
    I remember at one of my first arena events, several years ago, I found at restaurants and shops in town the manners and civility that I know now is a hallmark of what is taught on the Team. At first, I thought it was because of where I was, in the South. I soon realized it wasn’t Southern people acting this way — it was team members!
    As a woman, I have never found it demeaning to be shown manners and civility. I was often bewildered by those of my generation and those who preceded me in the womens lib movement who found it demeaning and debasing. I find it complimentary when my husband opens or closes doors for me, or carries heavy objects so I don’t have to do it.
    We always insisted our son treat his sister with the respect and courtesy that was demanded of him toward me. And we have expected the reverse of her, too . . . Our son-in-law won our approval when he was courting our daughter with the way he showed respect for her and me.
    I do my best to make a concerted effort to express appreciation for small courtesies, especially with younger people. It is my small way of passing manners on by example to the next generation. I have occasionally embarrassed younger gentlemen who have held doors for me by asking them to tell their mothers they did a good job with raising them up right!
    My grandmother was strick with things like table manners and all the things that go into courtly society manners. Whenever we were under her roof, my 4 siblings, 13 cousins and I were all expected to act to her exacting standards once we reached a certain age. I have been a tad more relaxed with my own kids. Sometimes, I miss those courtly manners in the bedlam of a busy and hyper-energetic family. I comfort myself in the knowledge my kids have the basics and some of the polish they need, and basic courtesy and consideration for the feelings of others will guide them in the rest of their social needs. May it be so fo all of us.

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  4. Pam Archer Avatar

    I like your way of thinking. You are spot on!

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  5. Richard Clarke Avatar

    Chris,
    All the more worrying, if we look to the evidence of history, societies have continued to develop technologically well after their “hey day”. It is in fact plain wrong to think that technological improvements are evidence of the progress of civilization.
    The origins of this thinking are given to us from archeology where the only evidence is improved technique. However, there are countless examples of ultimate refinements of technique preserved at just the point the civilization ceased to exist in its then current form.
    Progress is more about social progress. Representative government, abolition of slavery, universal education, capitalism are the enablers to progress.
    It is too easy for our political leadership to ride the technological progress and believe that society too is progressing. Sadly I believe if anything it lulls us into a false sense of security and avoids addressing the real social issues: that we are still working with an educational system ill equipped for modern society because it is based on Prussian model from the 19th century and designed for the early industrial age; increasing family breakdown; the sense that there is lack of community at the local level created by shifting working habits and commuting; injustice that continues even though the legislation to prevent the injustice increases exponentially.
    I am going to wish that there is a greater focus on finding solutions to these ills rather than wish for some new technological toy (although my son would like an Apple Macbook 🙂 )!
    Happy new year to all.
    Richard Clarke
    Leadership Coach

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  6. Paul Britz Avatar
    Paul Britz

    Thanks for the post Chris.
    I pray that if I am ever faced with a situation like this one I have the courage to act like the examples you gave.
    God Bless.

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  7. Jonathon Jones Avatar
    Jonathon Jones

    Thank you for posting the truth. I would not have known that fact as I bought into Hollywood’s story, unconsciously even.
    A good reminder to make sure we test all things and hold fast to what is true.

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  8. Dave Nelson Avatar
    Dave Nelson

    It’s why we have to shut our ears to the “world”, it’s the 90% crap of Sturgeons Law.
    insert a cd and press play, read a book, encourage a friend or a stranger and open their hearts to real truth. Happiness doesn’t just happen, we make it happen.
    Did you ever see a cat or dog plant a garden and reap a harvest?

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  9. Don Eller Avatar
    Don Eller

    Its funny how the media can change history to suit it’s needs and somehow most of believe it as the truth. We didn’t know any better, Thanks Chris for the info.
    Who would think the media would lie to us to alter our view on the world and push in a certain direction!

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