There are thousands of books on money, business, marriage, child rearing, diet, exercise, cooking, and gardening. Strangely, however, is the relative scarcity of those on the subject of friendship. 

A little over a year ago, my bride underwent brain surgery to remove a large tumor. It was physically traumatic, life-threatening, and very scary. Terri emerged from the experience healthy and armed with yet another obvious blessing straight from God. Ordeals such as that demonstrate a lot of things. First, they have a staggering power to realign one's priorities. And secondly, they reveal the real friends in one's life.

There were callers and well-wishers, people sending meals, others sending cards. Several showed up in the waiting room and rode shotgun through the entire day of surgery, some returning the next morning, others staying the night. Terri had a nurse friend assist in the recovery room the first night, and another awaiting her arrival at our house upon her hospital discharge. From the moment she arrived home until several weeks after, Terri received around-the-clock care from an army of girlfriends who had mobilized, scheduled themselves, and swooped onto the scene to nurture, support, administer medication, provide child care, and just "be there." 

It was awesome. 

It was love in motion. 

It was true friendship.

Friendship is hard to define. It has no official commitments like marriage. It has no familial ties like parenthood or relationships with siblings. It carries no consistent definitions. But like great art, while defying description, it is readily identifiable when it is experienced.

Terri's surgery was a reminder to us both of the value of true friendships in our life. We treasure the incredible people God has placed around us, and we pray that we are as good a friend to them as they have been to us. 

Friendships should never be taken for granted, as they provide grounding, comfort, companionship, depth, meaning, and enjoyment. During this holiday season give some consideration to the friendships in your life. Nurture them. Invest. Contribute. Serve. Laugh, live, and forge tighter the relationships that truly are one of life's greatest treasures.

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8 responses to “Friendship”

  1. Cathy - Team Rascals Avatar
    Cathy – Team Rascals

    Chris,
    I wrote the following about friendship in March of 1989. We had just spent a lovely evening with two couples who are our best friends (one of whom later became our sponsors). I have often said of this group there is nothing the 6 of us can’t do when we work together, and we have yet to prove that to be in error! Anyway, I dedicated it to them. Enjoy.

    MY FRIEND
    My friend has laughing eyes
    And warm arms to enfold
    To cheer a heart that’s weary
    With a story to be told;
    A happy smile to greet me,
    When I have been away,
    A compliment to make me smile,
    A hug to make my day.
    My friend has loving hands,
    Gentle and full of care,
    And when I’m full of sorrow,
    Has lots of hope to share;
    Eyes that see into my heart,
    No matter what my mood,
    A heart that warms and comforts me,
    Praying only for my good.
    And I would not give up my friend
    For all the world could give,
    And if I had to make a choice,
    It’s with my friend I’d live;
    Through thick and thin my friend will stay
    Right to the very end,
    And the only reason he will give
    Is because he is my Friend.

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  2. Rick lloyd Avatar
    Rick lloyd

    Chris, you’re right – again. There is far too little expressed about friendship – the only relationship without obligation, the only relationship we get to choose on a daily basis. ‘Family’ is chosen for us. Once we choose a spouse, it is a covenant relationship. But, friendship is mutually chosen – daily. Thank you for your friendship, mentorship and leadership. We love you both.
    Janet & Rick

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  3. Amy A Avatar
    Amy A

    Cathy, that’s a wonderful poem!
    Chris, your blog reminds me of the thoughts that have been going through my head the last few days. My grandmother just moved into a nursing home, and my mom and I have been diligent about keeping her company. On Christmas morning, we went to pick her up to take her to my mom’s, and many other families were there for the same thing. Being in a nursing home makes one wonder about one’s future, and I have no family of my own: no husband and no kids. This of course makes me worry about being alone when I am my grandmother’s age (if I get there.. she’s 101!).
    Your blog makes me remember that I have a wonderful family on Team, and, as long as I continue to learn from you and Orrin, I can reasonably hope to grow old with plenty of friends around me! Thanks!!

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  4. Terry J. Woychowski Avatar
    Terry J. Woychowski

    Chris,
    Wow, I had no idea that Teri had undergone such a difficult surgery. just reading about it made me want to give you guys a call and make sure you all are doing well. Thanks for sharing such a personal account. It really drives home the point.
    A Friend,
    Terry

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  5. Phyllis Hoff Avatar
    Phyllis Hoff

    So true Chris.
    I have been blessed with some amazing friends. I have a group of girlfriends (some of whom I went to gradeshcool with) who would be there no matter what.
    We were all at my house for our annual Christmas celebration dinner, pajama party. We had a wodnerful time.
    Along life’s journey, you also make new friends, of which I have as well. These new friends are a treasure to me, and you and Terri are two of those new friends.
    I love what you said, We pray that we are as good a friend to them as they are to us. I pray for the same.
    I am so thankful that God brought Terri through that very scary time, and I think about what you both must have gone through often.
    I think God knew how much we all needed her here, and decided to bless all of us, since her work here is far from over.
    Thanks Chris for this post, and thank you and Terri for being such good friends.

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  6. Ian Pardington Avatar
    Ian Pardington

    Chris, Thats what its all about! Thanks for putting it so well with what things the lord shows you daily!

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  8. Roseline Avatar

    True friends are always there for one another.
    The power of friendship is unmeasurable

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