IMG_0730I love "being in the zone" and feeling the enthusiasm for what I do professionally. I am blessed to be doing in life exactly what I want to do and (I believe very strongly) what God has called me to do.  I have long been an advocate of hard work, maximum effort, and the full utilization of one's gifts.  There are few things as sad as a wasted life.

However, in keeping with the theme of my latest book, A Month of Italy: Rediscovering the Art of Vacation, I have noticed that people who are hard chargers also seem to have a weakness: they have a difficult time grabbing the necessary down time in their lives.  Or, in the cases where they do set aside time, they don't use it properly and to the greatest advantage.  And finally, they don't establish restorative breaks as a matter of strategic habit.  In essence, then, I feel that those of us who are driven in life need to be aware of the following three ways we mess up when it comes to the concept of "going slow in order to go fast."  Here they are:   

Strategically: First, people don’t seem to look at scheduled downtime as a valid productive strategy. It is as if there is a “leisure guilt” complex that holds people back from scheduling the time they need. Therefore, people are not intentional about scheduling breaks into their calendar. The result is an “I’ll get to it when I’m not so busy” mentality in which someday rarely comes as readily or as regularly as needed to truly maintain peak performance.

Properly: Second, people don’t seem to structure their downtime to produce the most restoration. Instead, they use it as a way to check the “visited family” or the “visited such-and-such an attraction” box. There is a correct way to spend your downtime to maximize your regeneration, and it needs to be tailored to the your individual needs and style.

Regularly: Third, breaks are not usually scheduled on a regularly occurring basis. We need to eat regularly, breath regularly, and even sleep regularly, then it certainly stands to reason that we need professional breaks regularly. But more often than not, official breaks occur only sporadically as more pressing professional matters allow (which is all too infrequently).

Don't become self indulgent, and never fall for the trap that pleasure is worthy as an end pursuit.  However, also be careful not to ignore the needs of your body, mind, and soul to find rest and restoration in a constructive way.

Sincerely,

Chris Brady  

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22 responses to “3 Ways the Driven Mess Up Their Vacations”

  1. Josh Dames Avatar
    Josh Dames

    Great article Chris, I am enjoying learning more on the art of vacation and can not wait to read your new book!! Thx for all you do and god bless

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  2. Pete Nicolini Avatar
    Pete Nicolini

    Great information presented in a way that is easy to understand. I can’t wait to get my copy of this book! Thanks, Chris.

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  3. Teia Gareiss Avatar
    Teia Gareiss

    I look forward to reading your no book. R&R is something we need to add into our schdule without feeling quilty. I look forward to knowing how to take full advantage of that time.

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  4. Dean Clouse Avatar

    And we need to do all three. We have every excuse in the book (6 kids, two jobs, busy schedule, volunteer time, lack of funds, etc), but they are excuses. Like we teach elsewhere, an excuse is just a reason with a bad attitude.

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  5. Jeanne Fritch Avatar
    Jeanne Fritch

    Thanks, Chris. As always, you expose the basic truth that has been hiding from most of us, and get to the “root” of it succinctly. Appreciate you.

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  6. matt mielke Avatar
    matt mielke

    So true, Chris! My wife and I come from medical backgrounds which meant “on” all the time. You can only red-line for short bursts or burn-out occurs. Now, through your teachings and those in the LIFE business, we have freed ourselves from that life-style and are vacationing everyday- in freedom!

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  7. Randy Spence Avatar

    Hey Chris: Thanks once again for attempting to teach me how to control my schedule and to factor in down time to avoid burn-out! Sometimes slower is faster! Enjoy the vacation!

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  8. Cathy - Team Rascals Avatar

    Chris,
    Thank you for your words. Avoiding burnout is something many of us struggle with, and these are wise thoughts to help with the fight.

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  9. Cathy - Team Rascals Avatar

    Chris,
    I thought you would be interested in this blog from our local paper. File it under “Give me a BREAK!” It hits into the tech aspect of why people don’t go on vacations:
    http://blog.timesunion.com/hottopic/many-would-give-up-sex-for-iphone/2930/#comment-10060

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  10. Don Schultz - Team VIP Phalanx Avatar
    Don Schultz – Team VIP Phalanx

    Thanks for your words of wisdom from a “hard charger”. I imagine you approach all you do with a passion and drive and you have probably learned the lessons of burnout, broken promises, out-of-balance priorities, hurt relationships, etc. the hard way. Part of wisdom is being able to apply information that has been learned in the past to the next circumstances we encounter. Thanks for passing on what you have learned so we maybe don’t have to pay the same price.
    God desires us to accomplish much but He also had a plan for refreshment, “on the seventh day He rested.” It’s not because He was tired, it was to set the example for us.

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  11. tom gavin Avatar
    tom gavin

    Looking forward to your wisdom coming to pass.

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  12. Mary Avatar
    Mary

    Looking forward to reading your new book!

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  13. Michele P. Avatar
    Michele P.

    I am so anxious to get your book. I know that there are MANY lessons that I will be learning between those covers. It is so easy to ignore the need for rest and restoration when there is so much that “Needs” to be done. Thanks again for the food for thought.

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  14. Laurie Tallio Avatar
    Laurie Tallio

    I liked the concept that if we need to eat, breathe, and sleep regularly, then we also need restorative breaks regularly. Thank you for the insight!

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  15. Terry Pearce Avatar
    Terry Pearce

    Great article Chris! I do believe most Americans improperly use rest time or vacation, and that means for both ends of the spectrum; too much rest or not enough. Often we squander great moments to be productive, or take for granted the stress-relief that comes from taking a break during a long-haul.

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  16. Wes Smith Avatar
    Wes Smith

    Chris,
    I can’t wait to read this book and apply. Thanks for the nuggets! I’ll apply ASAP!

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  17. Linsey Konieczny Avatar
    Linsey Konieczny

    What a great reminder! I have to say that this is definitely an art that Jeff & I are working to develop! We are so thankful to have learned the importance of restoration and creating balance in our lives. Thank you for your example, Chris!

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  18. Jason Dames Avatar
    Jason Dames

    Chris I can’t wait until your book comes out!!!!

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  19. Robby Palmer Avatar

    I need to work on this! The book should help! Thanks chris!

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  20. Travis Avatar
    Travis

    really been enjoying these blogs. helps put into perspective of when to and not to be taking breaks. thanks!

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  21. Easton Kelsey, Gilbert AZ Avatar
    Easton Kelsey, Gilbert AZ

    I find restoration weekly in the Sabbath day that God ordained for us. It is THE day of rest.
    I do look forward though to the month long break that I will dub my yearly “Sabbath” month once I am job-optional:)
    Intel allows their employees 60 days paid vacation every seven years and thus the “Sabbatical”.
    Thank you for the opportunity to do it much sooner!

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  22. Trevor Smith Avatar
    Trevor Smith

    Chris,
    I can’t wait to read your book !!!

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