In life, we have an admirable tendency to conform, to seek harmony, and to build consensus. This is commendable, as we certainly don't want to intentionally cause conflict and wreak havoc. However, excellence carries with it the apparently inescapable reality of polarization. Whatever you are "for," others will be "against." In fact, the more you take a stand, the more you'll be opposed.

This explains why strong leaders and dominant viewpoints meet such opposition. George Washington was ridiculed abroad and the victim of passive aggressive politics and slander at home. The very fact that Abraham Lincoln was elected President was the spark that ignited the poweder keg of the Civil War. Today, Barack Obama is both passionately admired and vehemently hated. And closer to home for me, my good friend and often co-author Orrin Woodward has some of the strongest followers and at the same time, some of the most vicious enemies. Again, this is the natural result of taking a strong stand, being passionately committed to your purpose, and seeking aggressively after excellence.

Remember: Excellence polarizes.

If you are going to pursue your passion and calling in life with excellence, with gusto, with the full force of your gifts and determination, realize that you will be harshly opposed. It's just how things work. In fact, the most dominant of personalities are able to not only understand this as the lay of the land, but look for it as a sign that they are on the right track. If nobody is against them, it's a sure bet that there really won't be anyone who is much for them, either.

You should never seek to be intentionally offensive or disharmonious, but on the other hand, never hold back your gifts in an attempt to assuage your critics. They will be your critics no matter how much you pander to them. So don't pander to them in any way. Learn from their opposing viewpoint only to the extent that it makes you think through your position better, develop your understanding more clearly, and make your contribution that much more focused and correct. 

Never conform to please the critics, instead, perform to thrill your fans. 

Sincerely,

Chris Brady

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26 responses to “Dare to Polarize”

  1. Kyle Starr Avatar

    Well put Chris,
    “If you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for nothing”

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  2. Joe Defina Avatar
    Joe Defina

    As always Chris, well said. Its amazing to think how we go through life trying to please everyone instead of running toward our purpose. Even Jesus, the savior of human kind from all our sins, was violently opposed and crucified! More people need to stop focusing on what their opposition might think of them because for the most part their opposition isn’t thinking about them! God bless.

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  3. Cathy - Team Rascals of Rascal Nation Avatar

    Chris,
    You forgot someone in your list of strong leaders — YOU!
    Thank you for always being clear where you stand and why. It’s a pleasure to stand with and follow you!

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  4. Jason Dames Avatar
    Jason Dames

    What a great post. It causes me to look and see if I have enemies and if not am I really prsuing my passion!!!

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  5. Jason Dames Avatar
    Jason Dames

    Great post Chris. It makes me think of how many neg people I have and if not how much am I pursueing my purpose!!!

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  6. SJ Barakony Avatar

    So very true, this is a bullseye, Chris!
    Very neat tie-in with your recent CD where you touched upon the same theme.
    I also believe this theme ties in very well with Oliver DeMille’s ‘Freedom Shift’ master-stroke of a book, where, in Chapter 7, he discusses the different cultures in depth.
    Thank you, as always, for your time in sharing wisdom & truth in the blogosphere, and look forward to seeing you in Louisville 🙂
    Blessings from Terry’s Kaizen organization/tribe!

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  7. Mike Samuelson Avatar
    Mike Samuelson

    Amazing post. I’ve never really thought about how many people I admired or looked up to that were ridiculed for following there purpose untill LIFE.
    Now I’m so thankfull for someone haveing the guts and courage to follow there purpose and lay the ground work for people lIke myself that wanted more than a life of mediocrity.
    Thank you

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  8. Judy Henry Avatar
    Judy Henry

    Chris,
    Romans 12:11 says, “Never lag in zeal and in earnest endeavor: be aglow and burning with the Spirit, serving the Lord.”
    I’d say that covers polarization!
    Judy Henry

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  9. Pat Tefel Avatar
    Pat Tefel

    Some of the best advice ever. It reminds me of one of my Dad’s favorites…”If it is worth having it is worth fight for!” Thanks for leading with passion.

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  10. Terry Avatar
    Terry

    Christ said it best, Mathew 12:30 “He that is not for me is against me”…wow talk about the polarizer of all polarizers! Learn from the critic that has meaningful viewpoints and information, not from the critic that uses ad hominem, crude language and half truths to persuade their points. Thanks for you leadership
    T

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  11. Rob Robson Avatar

    I love that the LIFE community stands for truth no matter how un-politically correct it may be. You will either be filled with conviction or convicted with guilt but there it stands.

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  12. Bob Pollock Avatar
    Bob Pollock

    Chris is right on!!!! If you never make a stand than you won’t make any enemies. Thank God Jesus was strong enough to stand on his beliefs. We need to remember that example. If it’s worth fighting for, stand up for what you believe.

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  13. Randy Robson Avatar

    Tell it brother! Orrin Woodward, Chris Brady, George Guzzardo, Claude Hamilton, Bill Lewis, Dan Hawkins, and Tim Marks have such great blogs! I love the information being taught in the LIFE business. Can’t wait to hear about the new PC’s and RT’s in the coming months! Thank you!

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  14. Michelle LeMay Avatar

    Your blog reminded me of the mindset that “Life wouldn’t be so hard if we didn’t expect it to be so easy.” Thanks, Chris, I need the constant reminders!

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  15. David R.Thomas Avatar
    David R.Thomas

    Another great post! Reminds me of “if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything”. So very glad to be lead by the policy council members , knowing that every move they make helps everyone of us, and the generations to come! Thanks for all that you( and the rest of the p.c. ) do!

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  16. Trevor Kehoe Avatar
    Trevor Kehoe

    Accept, approve, appreciate, and then excel, improve, and infuriate.

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  17. Deb Lewis Avatar
    Deb Lewis

    Thank you, Chris – this is something I really needed today. More than you will ever know…

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  18. Lena Neufeld Avatar
    Lena Neufeld

    Well said!

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  19. John Lewis Avatar

    Thanks Chris for demonstrating this principle in your life. Great article!

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  20. Vicki Fullmer Avatar
    Vicki Fullmer

    Chris,
    You’re such a great example of a leader. Thanks for all you stand for!

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  21. Adam Powell Avatar
    Adam Powell

    Great post Chris!

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  22. Melissa McClure Avatar

    I love what others have already said. Thank you again for reminding me that it is okay to have my family tell me I am crazy for not wanting to live life the 95% way. Thank you again for your leadership.

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  23. Kristen Seidl Avatar

    Amen Chris! Thanks for your leadership, you have certainly taken a stand and shown us the power of polarization.God Bless (P.S your sermon Sunday was incredible-a message that was very much needed)

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  24. Cheryl Koziol Avatar
    Cheryl Koziol

    A good reminder to always stay true to yourself!

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  25. Tim Jarvinen Avatar
    Tim Jarvinen

    No diggity, no doubt!
    Luke warm is a life not well lived!
    Tim

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