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  • Void There are competing views of success in our world.  Achieving success in your life will depend largely on how you define success in the first place.  I must admit, my own personal definition of success has changed drastically over the years. 

    One view of success in the world is measured by victory.  We’ll call this the Victory School of Thought.  If you are in sports or business or any type of competition, success is defined by winning.  Interestingly, though, some of the most successful in this category, such as legendary coach John Wooden of the UCLA basketball team, defined success as doing one’s personal best and giving full effort toward that end.  In his view, winning was a natural by-product of this philosophy.  It certainly worked for Wooden.  He remains the most successful coach on record in nearly any sport at any level.  However, Wooden, even though he was so successful, is still rare in his philosophy.  Most consider winning as the true measure of success.

    Another view of success involves "capturing" things; whether it be titles, status, recognition, fame, or material possessions.  We’ll call this the Attainment School of Thought.  This is the "He who dies with the most toys wins" philosophy.  This view is a close cousin to the Victory School of Thought.

    While these two schools certainly have their good points, and victory and some of the trappings of success are not wrong in and of themselves, they do both come with a fundamental flaw.  That flaw relates to the real way we human beings are wired and what truly gives us satisfaction.  The flaw in the thinking of both the Victory School of Thought and the Attainment School of Thought is that the things of this world can please us, that they are worthy as an end-goal in our lives.

    The third and final School of Thought, I believe, is the Eternal School of Thought.  Here true success is found.  While it is okay to pursue victory in our lives in our professional endeavors (and who among us does not like to win once in a while?), and it is okay to enjoy the rewards of hard work and prosperity, real success is found in filling what one author called "The God-shaped void in our hearts."  You see, humans scratch around on the earth, busy about all kinds of things, pursuing all sorts of pleasures and objects designed to bring satisfaction, when the whole time what they are really searching for is a relationship with their Creator.  How do I know this?  It’s what the Bible is all about, and it is what has happened in my own life.

    My last post was about Indianapolis Coach Tony Dungy.  After reading his book, Quiet Strength, I would recommend it to anyone.  And I will pull one more piece from that book to illustrate what I’m talking about here.  According to Dungy,

    "God’s Word . . . presents a different definition of success – one centered on a relationship with Jesus Christ and a love for God that allows us to love and serve others.  God gives each one of us unique gifts, abilities, and passions.  How well we use those qualities to have an impact on the world around us determines how "successful" we really are."

    I love Dungy’s definition of success.  It focuses on God’s grace and what He has done through Christ on the cross, and shows that our grateful response should be one of service to others and sacrifice for God’s glory.  That is true success.  If the other, worldly definitions also happen here and there, so be it.  But the world’s definitions of success on their own are hollow and lead to increased depravity as people strive for more and more, hoping to fill that "God shaped vacuum" that no amount of
    "the world" will fill.  Real success comes from that relationship with God through His son Jesus Christ, and living out our days fulfilling, to the limits of our ability, the calling He places on our lives.
          

  • Clinton_laughing On a plane yesterday Terri had the following list up on her computer screen.  I glanced over and laughed right out loud at several of them, saying, "I’ve got to get a copy of that to put up on the blog!"  Her reply was a bit interesting: "What’s the purpose of your blog, again?"  I refused to answer, knowing that it would be impossible to explain why humor pieces keep getting posted on a leadership blog.  After all, it just doesn’t sound right to call this blog the "Whatever I feel like putting up that day" blog.  Leadership sounds much sexier, so I’ll stick with it.  But, at least for me, I can only digest so much rock-solid material if it is seasoned with a little fun.  Hope you agree (and don’t worry, Terri does too).

    Here’s the list.  Enjoy.

    What is…

    Arbitrator?  A cook that leaves Arby’s to work at McDonalds.

    Avoidable?  What a bullfighter tries to do.

    Bernadette?  The act of torching a mortgage.

    Burglarize?  What a crook sees with.

    Control?  A short, ugly inmate.

    Counterfeiter?  Workers who put together kitchen cabinets.

    Eclipse:  What an English barber does for a living.

    Eyedropper:  A clumsy ophthalmologist.

    Heroes:  What a guy in a boat does.

    Misty:  How golfers create divots.

    Paradox:  Two physicians.

    Parasites:  What you see from the top of the Eiffel Tower

    Pharmacist:  A helper on the farm.

    Polarize:  What penguins see with.

    Primate:  Removing your spouse from in front of the TV.

    Relief:  What trees do in the spring.

    Rubberneck:  What you do to relax your wife.

    Seamstress:  Describes 250 pounds in a size 6.

    Selfish:  What the owner of a seafood store does.

    Sudafed:  Brought litigation against a government official.

  • Wide_070204_dungy_hoisted I recently read the excellent book by Super Bowl champion coach of the Indianapolis Colts Tony Dungy entitled, Quiet Strength.  Among many, a section that really summarized some great leadership truths was where Dungy talked about what he learned from studying the book of Nehemiah in the Bible.  He and one of his spiritual mentors took a whole summer to focus just on that one book.  His summary of his leadership lessons from that study are simple and important.  I will include them in their entirity here:

    "Tom pointed out that most of the failings of biblical leaders were spiritual rather than tactical.  I learned three key truths from Nehemiah.  First, Nehemiah’s opportunity came in God’s time, not his own.  Second, Nehemiah diligently prepared his mind and his heart so he would be ready when God’s time arrived.  Third, Nehemiah needed to be prepared to take on the problems, doubts, and adversity that would come his way both from the outside and from within."

    In summary of Dungy’s summary 🙂

    1. opportunity is in God’s timing

    2. prepare so your’e ready when opportunity hits

    3. learn to handle struggle   

    I think Dungy’s summary here is excellent.  Who among us has not gotten frustrated at least once about the timing of things?  Who hasn’t gotten impatient wondering why increase and success seem slow to find us?  It is salve to a wound to realize it is all in God’s perfect timing! 

    As to preparedness: I used to think that all I needed was an opportunity, but what I really needed was proper thinking and the maturity that could only come through proper preparation.  For this reason I am thankful to the many authors, speakers, and great examples that have gone before me that have become so much a part of my preparation (and I have really only just begun the journey of growing and learning and getting better, to which many of you are much relieved to hear, I am sure!).  As the saying goes, success occurs when opportunity and preparedness meet.  It is interesting, though, how few people prepare properly for opportunity.  They adopt a "wait and see" attitude, or an entitlement mentality.  In a fast food culture they want everything instantly and refuse to put in the long, often hard hours of preparation.  But those who prepare, who get their engines running before the gate drops, are those that prosper the most.

    And the struggle?  Well, it’s the struggle that builds strength and proves depth of character.  We hate it while going through it but realize in retrospect that our struggles sometimes become our greatest allies.

    So rely on God’s timing and allow that understanding to give you patience.  Meanwhile, prepare and prepare, knowing that your day will come.  And when it does, don’t expect a bed of roses, know that anything worthwhile will require effort and expense. Apply these three truths to your leadership arsenal and see if you don’t notice the results.

    Do any of you have stories or experiences related to these three truths that could benefit other readers?  If so, we’d like to hear them!   

       

  • Frederick F. Reichheld, contributor to the Harvard Business Review and author of several books, defines The Loyalty Effect as "The full range of economic and human benefits that accrue to leaders who treat their customers, operators, and employees in a manner worthy of their loyalty." 

    Reichheld’s premise about loyalty might seem obvious at first.  Of course loyalty is important for business success.  But studies have shown that loyalty, in fact, is a concept many companies might be able to talk about, Chickfilabut can rarely develop in their customers and employees.

    Truett Cathy, legendary founder of the wildly successful Chick-fil-A restaurant chain, has taken the development of loyalty to an art form.  In fact, Chick-fil-A fosters so much loyalty among its customers and operators, that Reichheld wrote, "I can’t imagine a serious discussion of loyalty in business that does not reference the Cathy family and their accomplishments.  Why?  Because Chick-fil-A has succeeded by designing its entire business system around customer loyalty; because Truett Cathy recognizes that a company earns customers’ loyalty by consistently delivering superior value; because Chick-fil-A has created a degree of loyalty among its customers, employees, and restaurant franchise Operators that I had never imagined possible . . . ."

    Cathy himself writes, "The more we can foster the feeling that we are a group of people working together, depending on each other, and not just bound by a franchise agreement, the more likely we are to be loyal to each other.  In our case . . . the extra measure of trust has brought us the success we enjoy today."

    Imagine that!  A company whose "secret sauce," "crown jewels," or "proprietary advantage" is the way it treats people!  Ideas like that almost sound, well, out of date.  Can it really be that simple?

    One of the most important things to understand in the world of leadership is that principles never change.  There is no such thing as an "out-of-date" principle.  Absolutes are never trendy.  The longer I live, the more I am convinced of the truth of the saying, "Methods are many, principles are few, methods always change, but principles never do."

    Loyalty as a business strategy sounds both obvious and out-of-date at the same time.  I find that interesting.  But what I have witnessed in my own life shows the wisdom of Cathy and Reichheld.  Wherever loyalty has been earned and developed, great things happen.  Wherever it is demanded or compelled, bad things happen. 

    Personally, I appreciate the people who have taken the time to earn my trust, make deposits in my life, and add value to me as an individual.  They have earned my loyalty.  I am also thankful for all the people in my life who have shown me loyalty.  It is encouraging, but also comes with massive responsibility.  I would never want to let them down!

    As leaders, I think we would do well to duplicate the example of Truett Cathy and the culture he has built at Chick-fil-A.  Whether our leadership is in the home, at work, in a business of our own, at church, or in our community, we should build loyalty in all that we do.

    This brings up an interesting question for discussion: in what ways can we as leaders "build loyalty?" How, exactly, does that get accomplished? I look forward to your input!   

       

  • According to Ronald Reagan, some of the most dangerous words anyone could ever hear were, "I'm from the government, and I'm here to help."  With his characteristic home-spun, Reagan in that one little quip summed up what plagues much of the United State's current conditioU_s_government_grant61n. 

    Author W. Cleon Skousen coined the term "Counter-Productive Compassion" to describe what I see displayed across nearly the entire landscape of national candidates for President.  Somewhere, somehow, the American populace got it into their head that "the government" is responsible for solving the people's problems.  Even most of those on the "conservative" side barely represent a conservative platform.  It seems as though the citizenry has realized that they can vote "benefit providers" into office to serve their individual needs.

    Don't get me wrong.  It's not that we shouldn't care for the poor.  It's not that we shouldn't provide cushion to displaced workers caught in industry shifts.  It's not that we shouldn't get involved in addressing a whole host of human needs across our country.  Of course we should.  To do less would be cold, uncaring, and the farthest thing from compassionate.  What I am suggesting is that we merely consider who the "we" is in these sentences.  Exactly who should care for the poor?  Exactly who should help the displaced worker? Our compassion is correct, our implementation is flawed.

    Why?

    Because, just as Reagan indicated, governments are notoriously bad at executing (unless we are speaking of despotic governments, of course, in which case executions are some of their most efficient work).  Have you ever had to work with or inside of a bureaucracy?  If you have (and who among you hasn't invested hGovernment_t2imgours inside a DMV or Secretary of State's Office?), you know exactly what I'm talking about.  And the U.S. government, although founded upon some of the soundest political theory and documents the world has ever produced, is the world's largest bureaucracy.  Worse, it has a nagging little tendency to continue to grow.  With each new "program," no matter how well-intentioned, the pig just gets fatter and bigger and slower and less effective.  What began in compassion ends in a pile of paperwork and waste, with very little, if any, of the intended benefit actually finding its way to the proper recipient.  If that benefit does reach the right place, often times the compassion then breeds entitlement instead of its original purpose.  This is because most government programs, being so bureaucratic, are cold and impersonal, and therefore are not very caring, specific, or good at holding people accountable.  Instead of a hand up, which is what most well-intentioned compassionate people hope to enable the government to provide, it turns into a hand-out.

    Let's look at the principles involved, which I borrow from Benjamin Franklin:

    1. Compassion which gives a drunk the means to increase his drunkenness is counterFranklin-productive.

    2. Compassion which breeds debilitating dependency and weakness is counter-productive.

    3. Compassion which blunts the desire or necessity to work for a living is counter-productive.

    4. Compassion which smothers the instinct to strive and excel is counter-productive.

    So we see that compassion improperly applied leads to bad results.  And we further see that the government is especially gifted at "improperly applying" its compassionate funds.

    So if compassion is a dangerous weapon that must be yielded properly so it doesn't backfire, and if government has continually demonstrated its inability to properly implement compassion, how then should it be handled?

    The founding fathers had an answer for this, and it comes from a principle called "fixed responsibility."  The principle works much the same as the structure of government they instituted at the birth of the United States, in which local governments controlled everything except what belonged to the states and national government, and in turn the states handled everything the local governments could not, and finally, the federal government handled only what was beyond the local and state governments.  "Fixed Responsibility," according to Skousen, works like this:

    "The first and foremost level of responsibility is with the individual himself; the second level is the family; then the church; next the community; finally the country, and, in disaster or emergency, the state.  Under no circumstances is the federal government to become involved in public welfare.  The Founders felt it would corrupt the government and also the poor.  No Constitutional authority exists for the federal government to participate in charity or welfare.  By excluding the national government from intervening in the local affairs of the people, the Founders felt they were protecting the unalienable rights of the people from abuse by an over-aggressive government."

    In relation to this, where do you think we are today? And how did we get there? Was it because politicians learned that they could get elected by promising benefits to special interest supporters, thereby "selling votes," or was it because the government must handle these things because individuals, families, churches, and communities will not?

    Is our counter-productive governmental compassion a result of power hungry politicians (the kind that can't really solve the problem they crusade for because then they would be without their base of power), or is it due the selfishness and indifference of individuals, families, and churches in our society?

    What do you think?

    Which candidates align in what positions in relation to these questions?

       

  • Sharonjubilant26 Okay, after being drenched in national politics, I felt the need for some humor: hence the new caption contest and now this.  These are actual headlines from newspapers!

    1. Grandmother of Eight Makes Hole in One

    2. Deaf Mute Gets New Hearing in Killing

    3. Defendant’s Speech Ends in Long Sentence

    4. Complaints About NBA Referees Growing Ugly

    5. Police Begin Campaign to Run Down Jaywalkers

    6. Tuna Biting Off Washington Coast

    7. Men Recommend More Clubs for Wives

    8. Man Held Over Giant L.A. Brush Fire

    9. William Kelly, 87, Was Fed Secretary

    10. Milk Drinkers Are Turning to Powder

    11. Half-Million Italian Women Seen On Pill

    12. Safety Expert Says School Bus Passengers Should Be Belted

    13. Scientists to Have Ford’s Ear

    14. S. Florida Illegal Aliens Cut In Half By New Law

    15. Farmer Bill Dies In House

    16. Iraqi Head Seeks Arms

    17. Hershey Bars Protest

    18. Is There A Ring of Debris Around Uranus?

    19. Women’s Movement Called More Broad-Based

    20. Panda Mating Fails; Veterinarian Takes Over

    21. British Left Waffles on Falkland Islands

    22. Eye Drops Off Shelf

  • "Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes a day; wisdom consists of not exceeding the limit."  – Elbert Hubbard

    "Never let a fool kiss you or a kiss fool you."  – Joey AdamsFools

    "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread."  – Alexander Pope

    "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it."  – Edgar Allan Poe

    "Controversy equalizes fools and wise men – and fools know it."  – Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

    "By dint of railing at idiots we run the risk of becoming idiots ourselves."  – Gustave Flaubert

    "The greatest lesson in life is to know that even fools are right sometimes."  – Winston Churchill

    "He dares to be a fool, and that is the first step in the direction of wisdom."  – James Gibbons Huneker

    "Let us be thankful for the fools.  But for them the rest of us could not succeed."  – Mark Twain

  • Gunpsycho My recent posts regarding Operation Redwing have generated more buzz than nearly any other topic we've covered on this blog.  I am proud and encouraged by the many posts and comments in support of our fallen heros.  If those of us blessed with freedom ever forget how freedom is obtained and maintained, we will quickly lose it.  To do so would be a travesty for our children and grandchildren. 

    Further, many have asked me to comment upon the concealed weapon controversy.  As one police officer friend of mine said, "You pretty much only hear of mass shootings in "gun safe" zones."  What he meant by that is that criminals are free to break the law where the same laws refrain honest citizens from protecting themselves.  In other circumstances, gunmen have attempted shootings in places and situations where armed civilians were on hand to save the day.  These occurrences, of course, get little publicity in our modern media. 

    As for the Right to Bear Arms perhaps meaning the right to bear arms only in mass form, such as in the formation of a militia, I do not in any way believe this was the intention of the framers of the Constitution and the Bill of Rights.  The entire Constitution and Bill of Rights, beginning with the revolutionary document of the Declaration of Independence, are founded upon the rights of the INDIVIDUAL.  The secret to our society is the rights of the individual, officially respected and maintained in our government's founding documents.  Additionally, all one has to do is read the extensive writings (letters, briefs, pamphlets, bills, etc.) written by the founders of the United States.  Their position on nearly every issue is clear from the mountains of pages they wrote in their lifetimes.  We are not forced to "guess" at what their original intentions were, nor should we be led astray by those revisionists who not only want to re-write our history, but re-write our rights.  Very simply put, the Right to Bear Arms means, (are you ready for this?) we each have the The Right to Bear Arms!